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Posted: 12/19/2022 12:53:47 AM EDT
[#1]
Unless it is someone I hold in high regard, I don’t generally care what people say.
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Posted: 12/19/2022 1:43:54 PM EDT
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Posted: 12/19/2022 2:10:52 PM EDT
[#3]
I either get along with someone really well or they hate my guts. There has been no inbetween my whole life. But, I'll never hesitate to tell you to your face I'm an asshole. I try to get along with everyone but my tolerance for stupid shit is pretty low.
So, substitute jerk for asshhole and I've been called that plenty and admit I am one. Only to those I think deserve it....yes I'm aware and don't care, never have. |
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Posted: 12/19/2022 2:12:54 PM EDT
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People with personality disorders can act like that and convince themselves it's everybody else's fault.
I have a family member that's a hateful bitch. Anytime she's called out on it she turns it around and tells the other person it's their fault for making her act like that. It's kind of sad to watch. |
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Posted: 12/19/2022 2:30:21 PM EDT
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Most of the narcissistic jerks I've encountered use basic liberal rules:
Make sure you are the only one talking. Accuse others of the things you yourself do. Never let an opposing opinion be voiced. Never, ever admit fault. |
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Posted: 12/19/2022 2:39:56 PM EDT
[#6]
I had a date call me an asshole because I was tight.
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Posted: 12/19/2022 2:40:42 PM EDT
[#7]
A business owner is different than a school union.
Does she really need his business? Would she gain business by banning him? |
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Posted: 12/19/2022 2:47:47 PM EDT
[#8]
Quote HistoryQuoted: I either get along with someone really well or they hate my guts. There has been no inbetween my whole life. But, I'll never hesitate to tell you to your face I'm an asshole. I try to get along with everyone but my tolerance for stupid shit is pretty low. So, substitute jerk for asshhole and I've been called that plenty and admit I am one. Only to those I think deserve it....yes I'm aware and don't care, never have. |
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Posted: 12/19/2022 3:00:08 PM EDT
[#9]
People either love me or they hate me.
Or they think I’m OK. |
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Posted: 12/19/2022 3:01:33 PM EDT
[#10]
Quote HistoryQuoted: I've never understood these people. I've been in the retail and restaurant industry for most of my life. You deal with some people that just live to give you a hard time and fuck with you. Now that I'm a bit older and own my own business it's funny I seemingly never run into these types anymore.  When I was in my twenties and working for someone else, I encountered them pretty frequently. My staff members who are in their late teens and early twenties still encounter them. I'm developing a theory that the ego-driven people with true talent go into the arts and are relatively hidden, since they're eccentric artists and that's just kind of expected. The jerks without artistic talent aren't hidden and therefore are more noticeable when they hold jobs like lower-level management. |
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Posted: 12/19/2022 3:05:02 PM EDT
[#11]
There's a lot of flavors of "jerk".
Mostly I've found they really don't care what other people's opinions of them are no matter what the behavior. |
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Posted: 12/19/2022 3:06:03 PM EDT
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“Jerk” is a cheaper somewhat less sophisticated way of saying narcissist or someone with many narcissistic traits.
The OP sounds like a classic narcissist. So the answer to the question is since they are superior to you they don’t care what you think. You’re wrong. |
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Posted: 12/19/2022 10:31:31 PM EDT
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Quote HistoryQuoted: A business owner is different than a school union. Does she really need his business? Would she gain business by banning him? He wanted a discount cause hes special and got pissed off when she said no. |
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Posted: 12/19/2022 11:10:19 PM EDT
[#14]
You picked the right place to ask about people being jerks, now they’ll line up to tell you how “they don’t care” etc.
Being a dick isn’t a flex, you think you’re being edgy and cool and that everyone is impressed or perhaps intimidated but, they’re just laughing at you.(not directed at OP or anyone else in particular) |
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Posted: 12/19/2022 11:27:08 PM EDT
[#15]
I have told some. I don't know what they do afterwards but they always shut up and go away.
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Posted: 12/19/2022 11:28:46 PM EDT
[#16]
There are a couple of real jerks on here, but that is far outweighed by the genuinely good folks on here.
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Posted: 12/20/2022 7:25:52 AM EDT
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My brother is one, I call him an insufferable asshole. Example: My son and I flew 1,500 miles to pick up a motorhome in his area and stayed w/ him for the weekend. On Saturday at lunch time I saw ONE hamburger patty laid out to cook. I asked him where mine was, he grumpily stated 'You had breakfast', and I said I'll be having lunch too so get me a burger please, and do something for your nephew (6 years old). Mind you, we see him about 2x per year and haven't been in his area for 20 years, there's a lot more but you get the idea.
Also, he took some of my son's quarters that grandpa gave him and put them in a bank for a car when he turns 16, I let it go as I don't want to see the disappointment in my son's eyes regarding Uncle "Bob". Apparently we interrupted his weekend of 'ReaLitY SHow Tv' (he's retired) |
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Posted: 12/20/2022 7:27:33 AM EDT
[#18]
Quote HistoryQuoted: The jerk store called |
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Posted: 12/20/2022 7:32:11 AM EDT
[#19]
Quote HistoryQuoted: IRL I make it a point to call out and ostracize douche bags. I do it with intellect and class, it's a great time. Have you ever said to anyone “The Jerk Store called, and they’re running out of you”? |
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Posted: 12/20/2022 7:34:33 AM EDT
[#20]
I've recently started treating everyone like a small child or a good dog. People love that shit.
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Posted: 12/20/2022 7:50:44 AM EDT
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Depends on the situation and what’s going on.
Outside of work I’m a nice guy. At work , I’m portrayed as an asshole by people who are either a moron , or do stupid shit and get called out on it by me  Guys I work with think I’m a jerk because I expect them to ......actually work . They’ve told my boss I’m an asshole cause I won’t let them decide how to do things . I told the boss, if they have a plan that makes ME do more work and they get to do less work, fuck that , I’m not doing it . Latest one is the bigwigs at work totally changed our vacation system , and really fucked over a bunch of people . Me included . I had questions about the new system and asked them . Yep I was the asshole for questioning my betters . Where in reality , she was just oissed that I had good questions she didn’t have answers to and was pissed that that made her look kinda dumb . Fuck em |
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Posted: 12/20/2022 8:48:16 PM EDT
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Quote HistoryQuoted: You picked the right place to ask about people being jerks, now they'll line up to tell you how "they don't care" etc. Being a dick isn't a flex, you think you're being edgy and cool and that everyone is impressed or perhaps intimidated but, they're just laughing at you.(not directed at OP or anyone else in particular) Say you're dealing with an obviously timid, scared, weak, or insecure person. You could probably be an asshole or take advantage of them and easily get away with it but because you're not a piece of shit you're nice to them. He would see it as an opportunity. |
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Posted: 12/20/2022 8:50:16 PM EDT
[#23]
In my experience there is no need to tell a jerk they are a jerk. The already know they are jerks.
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Posted: 12/20/2022 8:54:33 PM EDT
[#24]
Wouldn't you want to be told you're a jerk?
Being a jerk seems cool till you get older have no friends, burn bridges, and die alone. |
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Posted: 12/26/2022 12:37:37 PM EDT
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Quote HistoryQuoted: @JerkStore Now what? |
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Posted: 1/2/2023 3:43:42 PM EDT
[#26]
Do jerks think they are the only person that is allowed to be a jerk? Everyone else has to accept it and smile.
You ever been put into a situation where there seems to be this hierarchy and the dude at the top is a dick to everyone but nobody can reciprocate? |
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Posted: 1/2/2023 3:49:59 PM EDT
[#27]
My friend and his wife both said the same thing about one guy they knew, "There is a reason his name is Dick."
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Posted: 1/2/2023 3:51:48 PM EDT
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Quote HistoryQuoted: I had a date call me an asshole because I was tight. He or she? |
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Posted: 1/2/2023 4:17:20 PM EDT
[#29]
People who are complete jerks and a-holes that think of it as a badge of honor need to take a long look in the mirror. Seriously. Think of all the people you hurt. It WILL come back to bite you when you least suspect it and it won't end well for you.
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Posted: 1/2/2023 4:24:11 PM EDT
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Quoted: This is inspired by a woman, who manages a sporting goods business in my hometown, complaining to me about a guy who, I swear, hasn't had a good thing said about him. She was describing him to me (she isn't from the area) and then when I figured out who he was I was laughing when she started complaining about him as a repeat customer. I had him as a high school teacher. Students hated him. Parents hated him. After I graduated, I found out many teachers hated him. I have a few family friends who were administrators, school board members etc. and they hated him too. I grew up in a smaller town. Since I graduated, I've been hearing stories about him and his shenanigans. He pretty much rubs everyone he comes into contact with the wrong way. Apparently, he's retired so now he's no longer just pissing off people associated with the local high school. The guy has a huge ego, a super high opinion of himself (I don't know why) and a bad temper (he's not violent). I'm honestly surprised he wasn't fired and made it to retirement. I guess if you have tenure, you can't get fired. He seems oblivious to the hate. I don't think I've heard of a single story of someone telling him to his face what a fuck he is. Telling him won't do a thing. He has never had an awakening that would result in a behavioral change. A thorough ass beating is usually needed; one that he will never forget. |
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Posted: 1/2/2023 4:24:31 PM EDT
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Quoted: This is inspired by a woman, who manages a sporting goods business in my hometown, complaining to me about a guy who, I swear, hasn't had a good thing said about him. She was describing him to me (she isn't from the area) and then when I figured out who he was I was laughing when she started complaining about him as a repeat customer. I had him as a high school teacher. Students hated him. Parents hated him. After I graduated, I found out many teachers hated him. I have a few family friends who were administrators, school board members etc. and they hated him too. I grew up in a smaller town. Since I graduated, I've been hearing stories about him and his shenanigans. He pretty much rubs everyone he comes into contact with the wrong way. Apparently, he's retired so now he's no longer just pissing off people associated with the local high school. The guy has a huge ego, a super high opinion of himself (I don't know why) and a bad temper (he's not violent). I'm honestly surprised he wasn't fired and made it to retirement. I guess if you have tenure, you can't get fired. He seems oblivious to the hate. I don't think I've heard of a single story of someone telling him to his face what a fuck he is. |
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Posted: 1/2/2023 4:29:13 PM EDT
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Posted: 1/2/2023 4:34:52 PM EDT
[#33]
Quote HistoryQuoted: Telling him won't do a thing. He has never had an awakening that would result in a behavioral change. A thorough ass beating is usually needed; one that he will never forget. I cannot believe he hasn't. The shit he has done is insane. He seems to have a knack for tiptoeing around people that can hurt him. But then full on asshole to those that can't. |
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Posted: 1/2/2023 4:35:34 PM EDT
[#34]
Quote HistoryQuoted: IRL I make it a point to call out and ostracize douche bags. I do it with intellect and class, it's a great time. We could hang out. In most cases, they're not smart or perceptive enough to realize you just owned them. |
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Posted: 1/2/2023 4:38:38 PM EDT
[#35]
Quote HistoryQuoted: I cannot believe he hasn't. The shit he has done is insane. He seems to have a knack for tiptoeing around people that can hurt him. But then full on asshole to those that can't. Quote HistoryQuoted: Quoted: Telling him won't do a thing. He has never had an awakening that would result in a behavioral change. A thorough ass beating is usually needed; one that he will never forget. I cannot believe he hasn't. The shit he has done is insane. He seems to have a knack for tiptoeing around people that can hurt him. But then full on asshole to those that can't. He sounds like my father. All badass to store clerks and restaurant wait staff, but doesn't say a damned thing around someone who might kick his ass. |
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Posted: 1/2/2023 4:52:37 PM EDT
[#36]
Quote HistoryQuoted: I noted that. Seemed like this thread has been a honeypot for NPD types already. The handful of times I’ve had a really poor interaction with a fellow employee over the past 12 years on the fire department, and we’re talking like 3 people out of 1500, I’ve always done a lot of self reflection and worried that I was the asshole. A few times I’ve even apologized with full self awareness I really didn’t do anything wrong, hoping to smooth things over, and had my interactions with these folks and the relationship got even more contentious. Watching these folks move on in their career they have without exception left a long trail of drama, investigations, and exceedingly poor reputations. One has even managed to still get promoted twice (and hated by his subordinates.) One of the others got arrested in a prostitution sting and still somehow has a job. He gets ran out of every firehouse he bids into in about six months. I later realized I was likely dealing with NPD or BPD folks. I think the "worried that I was the asshole" part is a key difference. I recently had a falling out with some family members and even though I was confident that I was "right," I had a nagging doubt that maybe I was being a jerk or unreasonable. After some time passed I reached out in an attempt to make amends, offer an apology on my part, etc. They seized that opportunity to double down on everything, hurled insults at me, no apology, no remorse, etc. While I was trying to reconcile, they were smelling blood in the water and trying to "win." I let them go for a lot longer than I should have because I was quietly enjoying the confirmation that I absolutely wasn't the asshole. |
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Posted: 1/2/2023 4:57:49 PM EDT
[#37]
Quote HistoryQuoted: I've been called an asshole more than once. I just smile and agree. What people think is being an asshole is just me not putting up with fools and idiots. Life is better when you truly don't give a damn what people think. FPNI coming from the military truly makes me hate dealing with most people. Completely fucking retarded and pathetic |
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Posted: 1/2/2023 4:59:40 PM EDT
[#38]
Quote HistoryQuoted: He sounds like my father. All badass to store clerks and restaurant wait staff, but doesn't say a damned thing around someone who might kick his ass. I've been in the retail and restaurant industry my whole life. Without fail they always turn into the biggest worms when confronted by someone who can fight back. I look young. I often get mistaken for an employee (99.99 percent of the time it doesn't matter who cares). Then you get this fuck who sees it as an opportunity. I've never had to say anything beyond "you realize I own the business?" I love my dad but he had a habit of doing this too. |
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Posted: 1/2/2023 5:03:31 PM EDT
[#39]
Better question is how did we get so pussified that they don't get a regular ass beating.
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Posted: 1/2/2023 5:09:03 PM EDT
[#40]
Quote HistoryQuoted: IMHO, sounds like deep down he probably hates himself. We got one shot here, and it sounds like he didn't get the "grow and evolve" gene. His asshole behavior didn't seem real or genuine. It seemed like he felt he was compelled to do it. |
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Posted: 1/2/2023 7:33:17 PM EDT
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Quote HistoryQuoted: I had a date call me an asshole because I was tight. If I was an asshole I would've made a rude, but funny comment. I refrained.
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Posted: 1/2/2023 7:41:49 PM EDT
[#42]
This thread reminds me of a particular show scene... hmm...
 The World Is Full Of Assholes |
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Posted: 1/2/2023 7:51:35 PM EDT
[#43]
Quote HistoryQuoted: He's not oblivious he feeds off it, he lives for it. I know folks just like you described. Un-happy MF'ers This. Had the displeasure of knowing a couple of men that were eternal contrarians, simply for the purpose of being contrary. Being called out on it was the wind beneath their wings. |
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Posted: 1/2/2023 7:52:10 PM EDT
[#44]
Quote HistoryQuoted: This thread reminds me of a particular show scene... hmm...  https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cRcfqpyuk9k |
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Posted: 1/2/2023 8:13:37 PM EDT
[#45]
Quote HistoryQuoted: I've been called an asshole more than once. I just smile and agree. What people think is being an asshole is just me not putting up with fools and idiots. Life is better when you truly don't give a damn what people think. It's not "better" , it's absolute bliss. And not putting up with other people's dumb shit does not make you an asshole. |
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Posted: 1/2/2023 8:35:50 PM EDT
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People used to get smacked a lot more for true asshole behavior. It's easy to spot the type that the OP describes. Look at how some treat servers, retail clerks, etc. They purposely choose those who rarely can/will fight back. They're probably left lane campers too..
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Posted: 1/2/2023 8:41:01 PM EDT
[#47]
Quote HistoryQuoted: This. Had the displeasure of knowing a couple of men that were eternal contrarians, simply for the purpose of being contrary. Being called out on it was the wind beneath their wings. Did they just enjoy conflict? |
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Posted: 1/2/2023 8:41:20 PM EDT
[#48]
 The Jerk Store Called | The Comeback | Seinfeld |
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Posted: 1/2/2023 8:57:10 PM EDT
[#49]
Quote HistoryQuoted: Did they just enjoy conflict? Quote HistoryQuoted: Quoted: This. Had the displeasure of knowing a couple of men that were eternal contrarians, simply for the purpose of being contrary. Being called out on it was the wind beneath their wings. Did they just enjoy conflict? I recall a conversation I had with one guy who liked to think of himself as a philosopher. "So, rocks aren't alive?" he asked. They think they won if they have done something that is too stupid to answer. |
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Posted: 1/2/2023 9:06:35 PM EDT
[#50]
 FEAR -I Don't care about you |
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