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Posted: 9/28/2023 1:40:24 PM EDT
[#1]
Dude pinky promise is fir second grade. You should have cut yourselves and mixed blood. That's what grownups do.
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Posted: 9/28/2023 1:40:44 PM EDT
[#2]
Single guy posting a single mom's L
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Posted: 9/28/2023 1:41:38 PM EDT
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Posted: 9/28/2023 1:41:45 PM EDT
[#4]
Quote HistoryQuoted: It was me, and yes, it was good. but seriously, you're gf is trying to do the right thing by telling you. You should forgive her. After all Jesus said something to the effect of: From the Bible John 8.7 where Jesus tells the accusers of a woman of adultery, He that is without sin among you, let him first cast a stone at her. And he can forgive her, but absolutely no way he should continue in a relationship with her. |
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Posted: 9/28/2023 1:43:30 PM EDT
[#5]
Not really a curse. If you are dating women that you are having sex with regularly within a month and having to make promises you won't have sex with other people, this is an expected outcome.
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Posted: 9/28/2023 1:43:37 PM EDT
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Quote HistoryQuoted: I'm guessing, or maybe hoping, OP meant "pinky swear" figuratively. Probably didn't want to mess up the couch with a blade drawn across both of their palms in the traditional, solemn GD to-death vow. Regardless, she had her other hand, fingers crossed behind her back. It nullifies all vows, promises, contracts, or agreements. Everybody knows that.  But Op forgot to check. |
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Posted: 9/28/2023 1:43:59 PM EDT
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Quote HistoryQuoted: Let it go man! You'd been dating a month. If all else is good, who cares! Regardless of what was said or what was promised, she obviously wasn't into OP enough to be even tentatively exclusive on her own accord. OP is doing the right thing. |
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Posted: 9/28/2023 1:45:53 PM EDT
[#8]
No pics, no advice.
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Posted: 9/28/2023 1:45:56 PM EDT
[#9]
Your kids can still be friends if you and she can act like adults after your breakup.
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Posted: 9/28/2023 1:46:17 PM EDT
[#10]
Quote HistoryQuoted: 1st and 3rd paragraphs do not align. At all. And he can forgive her, but absolutely no way he should continue in a relationship with her. Clarification: OP and girl were fornicating. GF fornicated with another dude. Inserting the Bible here shows 3 guilty parties. |
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Posted: 9/28/2023 1:46:22 PM EDT
[#11]
Quote HistoryQuoted: My former boss used to plow all kinds of married women. "The best part is, you send them home after, and they don't come bothering you. A ring doesn't plug a hole." Quote HistoryQuoted: Quoted: Quoted: Pinky promise aint shit without a promise ring This. The best pussy is married pussy. |
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Posted: 9/28/2023 1:46:49 PM EDT
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Posted: 9/28/2023 1:46:53 PM EDT
[#13]
Yep, you can never trust cheating people again. They’ll do it again
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Posted: 9/28/2023 1:46:59 PM EDT
[#14]
Quote HistoryQuoted: It was me, and yes, it was good. but seriously, you're gf is trying to do the right thing by telling you. You should forgive her. After all Jesus said something to the effect of: From the Bible John 8.7 where Jesus tells the accusers of a woman of adultery, He that is without sin among you, let him first cast a stone at her. Sounds like she was trickle truthing as the relationship was probably getting more serious. By the end of next year he might have the whole story. Good of her to come clean and the OP can forgive her but he doesn't need to stay in a relationship with her. |
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Posted: 9/28/2023 1:47:44 PM EDT
[#15]
She did you a massive favor. Good eject.
All the people I know who blend a family and then have a kid of their own, and then it almost never works out on top of that. Its funny and sad to watch them juggle 2 different baby mommas/daddys with multiple half-siblings. Seems like a freaking blast at the holidays shuttling around all those kid exchanges. WTF LOL |
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Posted: 9/28/2023 1:48:02 PM EDT
[#16]
You did the right thing by ejecting.
You would never be able to trust her again. I know about that first hand. The mistrust only gets worse and worse as time passes. |
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Posted: 9/28/2023 1:48:08 PM EDT
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Posted: 9/28/2023 1:48:14 PM EDT
[#18]
Quote HistoryQuoted: Just because you put a ring to it and lock it up, doesn't mean they are not going to cheat on you  Exactly. A slip of paper and a ring won't stop a whore from being a whore (and that goes for either party). |
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Posted: 9/28/2023 1:49:15 PM EDT
[#19]
My man!!!
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Posted: 9/28/2023 1:49:22 PM EDT
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Quote HistoryQuoted: Ain't that the damned truth. Something here to take to heart, OP. Quote HistoryQuoted: Quoted: I miss the days when stuff like this between me and a girl seemed so important. After dealing with the challenges of raising my kids, a couple miscarriages, hurricane damage, a house fire, a forced career change, dealing with cancer, dementia, family Court, civil litigation, other health issues, caring for my parents (physically and financially) bad investments, taxes and financial concerns, I’d like to go back to something easy with only the potential to hurt my pride. Sorry, OP. I’m not trying to belittle your problem. Stay with her or not, that’s up to you, but if that’s the worst thing that happens in your life, consider yourself a lucky man. Ain't that the damned truth. Something here to take to heart, OP. This should be taken to heart. But if you do, ask yourself if she would take care of you if anything happened to you. Cancer, paralysis, deformity and your kids. If that’s a solid yes and she’s truly let ride or die then that changes things. If it’s no then you were just banging her anyway. |
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Posted: 9/28/2023 1:49:45 PM EDT
[#21]
Quote HistoryQuoted: Take the blow job first. Due eject later. User name is appropriate. |
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Posted: 9/28/2023 1:49:48 PM EDT
[#22]
Your relationship may not have been a train wreck but this thread may become one.
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Posted: 9/28/2023 1:49:51 PM EDT
[#23]
Quote HistoryQuoted: Sounds like she was trickle truthing as the relationship was probably getting more serious. By the end of next year he might have the whole story. Good of her to come clean and the OP can forgive her but he doesn't need to stay in a relationship with her. Quote HistoryQuoted: Quoted: It was me, and yes, it was good. but seriously, you're gf is trying to do the right thing by telling you. You should forgive her. After all Jesus said something to the effect of: From the Bible John 8.7 where Jesus tells the accusers of a woman of adultery, He that is without sin among you, let him first cast a stone at her. Sounds like she was trickle truthing as the relationship was probably getting more serious. By the end of next year he might have the whole story. Good of her to come clean and the OP can forgive her but he doesn't need to stay in a relationship with her. Nailed it. She was testing him to see if he was a simp. OP was not a simp, which is refreshing! |
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Posted: 9/28/2023 1:52:02 PM EDT
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Quote HistoryQuoted: This should be taken to heart. But if you do, ask yourself if she would take care of you if anything happened to you. Cancer, paralysis, deformity and your kids. If that’s a solid yes and she’s truly let ride or die then that changes things. If it’s no then you were just banging her anyway. Can't not fuck another guy, but will take care of you when dying from cancer? Lol....the mental gymnastics. |
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Posted: 9/28/2023 1:52:14 PM EDT
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Also here to point out that you asked her to be exclusive while also not agreeing that you were officially a couple.
There’s no such thing as exclusive friends with benefits. She probably assumed you were trying to get your cake and eat it too. |
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Posted: 9/28/2023 1:53:25 PM EDT
[#26]
She wanted to break it off but she didn't have a good reason or way so she used the old "It's me/my fault and not you" I cheated story. You break it off and that is always what she will say if asked. She won't ever say WHY you broke it off.
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Posted: 9/28/2023 1:53:32 PM EDT
[#27]
It's good she told you.
Only a month into a relationship isn't a huge problem, but what IS a problem is that most criminals admit to the lesser crime. So, there was probably more to it, and you did the right thing letting her go. I don't necessarily agree with not allowing your kids to meet people you date, but they should only meet the serious ones. No way to know whether everyone gets along unless you introduce them. But obviously that depends on the age of the kids and how they handle things. YMMV |
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Posted: 9/28/2023 1:53:37 PM EDT
[#28]
Serious question Ben. You’re obviously looking for a wife. Can you not find a younger woman with no children? It seems that would be Far better, in every way.
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Posted: 9/28/2023 1:53:46 PM EDT
[#29]
So obviously this chick is pretty "easy" but the questions is...
Is she easy because she's horny and likes to fuck or because she's one of these girls that craves male attention and approval so badly that she'll spread her legs for any guy who says nice things to her? I guess it doesn't matter seeing how there are kids involved. Good eject! |
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Posted: 9/28/2023 1:55:45 PM EDT
[#30]
Quote HistoryQuoted: Can't not fuck another guy, but will take care of you when dying from cancer? Lol....the mental gymnastics. Quote HistoryQuoted: Quoted: This should be taken to heart. But if you do, ask yourself if she would take care of you if anything happened to you. Cancer, paralysis, deformity and your kids. If that’s a solid yes and she’s truly let ride or die then that changes things. If it’s no then you were just banging her anyway. Can't not fuck another guy, but will take care of you when dying from cancer? Lol....the mental gymnastics. Sounds like in OP he wanted her to agree to only be with him but also didn’t want her to be his girlfriend. If my current wife asked that of me I would have been like, yeah sure. Continued sleeping with her and other women. But I would still be as in it until the end as I am with her now. If someone likes you, wants control over what you do with others but doesn’t want the title what exactly are you supposed to do with that? One option is pretend to play along and see where things go . |
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Posted: 9/28/2023 1:55:47 PM EDT
[#31]
Good eject OP. As others have mentioned when a woman tells you something like that, it's always just the tip of the iceberg. There's more. Probably much more.
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Posted: 9/28/2023 1:55:47 PM EDT
[#32]
Quote HistoryQuoted: Both have kids and are doing pinky promises? WTF?  Of course. Only the best relationships are built on a foundation of pinky promises. |
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Posted: 9/28/2023 1:56:49 PM EDT
[#33]
Quote HistoryQuoted: It was me, and yes, it was good. but seriously, you're gf is trying to do the right thing by telling you. You should forgive her. After all Jesus said something to the effect of: From the Bible John 8.7 where Jesus tells the accusers of a woman of adultery, He that is without sin among you, let him first cast a stone at her. Not quite the same thing, skeeter. You can forgive her and not condemn her, but that doesn't mean you should continue to trust her and build a life with her. |
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Posted: 9/28/2023 1:57:18 PM EDT
[#34]
Quote HistoryQuoted: Can't not fuck another guy, but will take care of you when dying from cancer? Lol....the mental gymnastics. Quote HistoryQuoted: Quoted: This should be taken to heart. But if you do, ask yourself if she would take care of you if anything happened to you. Cancer, paralysis, deformity and your kids. If that’s a solid yes and she’s truly let ride or die then that changes things. If it’s no then you were just banging her anyway. Can't not fuck another guy, but will take care of you when dying from cancer? Lol....the mental gymnastics. I'll bet she'll "take care of" the dying guy, all right... "Here, just put my name on these estate planning documents, and then I'll help you with that pillow!" |
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Posted: 9/28/2023 1:57:32 PM EDT
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Quoted: Been dating for 11 1/2 months. Before we were "officially" BF/GF we did a Pinky Swear that we wouldn't F other people even tho we weren't official yet. Swore to each other we would tell each other if we did F someone else as a courtesy to the other person. Last night she told me that about a month into me and her dating, she went on a date and Fd another dude. She and I had already had sex a bunch of times when this would have occurred. I told her she lied and broke my trust and our little agreement we had. Thing is, her kids and my kids have become friends and we were doing family functions together on both sides. Fing BS. This morning I ejected. Be proud of yourself for not being a doormat. The most important virtue for a woman is loyalty. |
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Posted: 9/28/2023 1:58:15 PM EDT
[#36]
Quote HistoryQuoted: Taste funny?  |
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Posted: 9/28/2023 1:58:17 PM EDT
[#37]
Quote HistoryQuoted: Good eject. If she told you about one there was at least 4 +1 And the only reason she did it was as a test. You passed. She failed. |
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Posted: 9/28/2023 1:59:31 PM EDT
[#38]
Quote HistoryQuoted: Sounds like in OP he wanted her to agree to only be with him but also didn’t want her to be his girlfriend. If my current wife asked that of me I would have been like, yeah sure. Continued sleeping with her and other women. But I would still be as in it until the end as I am with her now. If someone likes you, wants control over what you do with others but doesn’t want the title what exactly are you supposed to do with that? One option is pretend to play along and see where things go . Again, the mental gymnastics some go to when a woman lies to them. |
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Posted: 9/28/2023 2:00:43 PM EDT
[#39]
I probably would cheat on a guy who did something as lame as "pinky promise" with me too.
Good eject. |
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Posted: 9/28/2023 2:00:45 PM EDT
[#40]
I guess OP decided not to engage with his own thread...
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Posted: 9/28/2023 2:01:06 PM EDT
[#41]
Quote HistoryQuoted: I'll bet she'll "take care of" the dying guy, all right... "Here, just put my name on these estate planning documents, and then I'll help you with that pillow!" But.....but....If you just ask her to ask jesus for forgiveness, then she really means it! Jesus loved whores too! |
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Posted: 9/28/2023 2:01:42 PM EDT
[#42]
In the modern dating scene a month of dating isn't anything. That's like what, 2-3 dates?
Pretty foolish to break it off after almost a year of dating for something so minor if everything else is going well. Its not like she cheated on you yesterday. |
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Posted: 9/28/2023 2:01:53 PM EDT
[#43]
Whores gonna whore. Been there done that.
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Posted: 9/28/2023 2:02:40 PM EDT
[#44]
I'll never date single moms.
Hurts even more when the kids are suddenly gone from your life. Also hurts the kids too. |
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Posted: 9/28/2023 2:03:07 PM EDT
[#45]
Quote HistoryQuoted: Good eject. If she told you about one there was at least 4 |
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Posted: 9/28/2023 2:03:49 PM EDT
[#46]
If she was doing Tinder Slams while being with you, it would have happened again down the line.
Fuck the kids. Good eject. |
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Posted: 9/28/2023 2:04:04 PM EDT
[#47]
Quote HistoryQuoted: In the modern dating scene a month of dating isn't anything. That's like what, 2-3 dates? Pretty foolish to break it off after almost a year of dating for something so minor if everything else is going well. Its not like she cheated on you yesterday. if you said you were going to be faithful and you were not faithful that's cheating. i don't care if you've been on 1 date or a thousand. |
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Posted: 9/28/2023 2:04:16 PM EDT
[#48]
Quote HistoryQuoted: Also here to point out that you asked her to be exclusive while also not agreeing that you were officially a couple. There’s no such thing as exclusive friends with benefits. She probably assumed you were trying to get your cake and eat it too. Yeah, that's messed up. But OP failed when told of the indiscretion, the proper answer is "thank you for telling me, I'm not mad, it actually relieves my guilt too". And then shut up. Continue to bang her while looking for the next welfare mom. Then move on when the time comes. Also, get a vasectomy ASAP. |
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Posted: 9/28/2023 2:04:30 PM EDT
[#49]
Wife and I got in a small disagreement last night
Then something crazy happened Later she apologized Then she told me I was right I still cant decide if Im dreaming or if some bro is about to serve me papers |
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Posted: 9/28/2023 2:05:06 PM EDT
[#50]
Quote HistoryQuoted: I guess OP decided not to engage with his own thread... We should have made him pinky promise that he would come back. |
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