I’m not dismissing OP’s observation.    It’s a very common thing.  However, nobody should be without hope.

  You guys remind me daily, how truly blessed I am.    Thank you, with all sincerity.

When I get hit on by plus size gals (at least what I consider plus size), I'm nice about it and make very tiny conversation, I'm not rude.
I coined a phrase many years ago that gets me out of it easily...I tell em "I'm retired from dating" and its a truth unless a gal really gets my attention.

What is that going to do for you? The sexual marketplace has been global for at least a decade, at this point.

Depends on your AO. Over here these “women” aren’t even waiting to get married.

People sat around and got fat the last two years.

We live to fight another day. And after a decent interval of time, well, there are other fish in the sea. You've been out of circulation for a while. You'll be just amazed at what's out there. Thailand, the Czech Republic, I mean, those women are so grateful to even be here.

Hello all. First post here but many year lurker.  

My thoughts have changed drastically over the years.  In my teens and twenties I literally couldn’t gain weight or muscle mass despite really trying to do both.  My metabolism was just far to fast.  I never ever thought I would struggle with weight and held similar feelings to those above regarding fat people being disgusting (I still think that BTW). My thirties were great because I could actually lift weights and gain muscle. In my 40’s I suddenly realized I had to be careful.

Now at 55 it’s a struggle holding things under 200.  It’s the same equation for females except they are biologically programmed to hold more weight so it’s even tougher for them.

I watch my older relatives now and realize why they eat very little (it’s not because they want to).  

Why is your ding dong itchy?

They’re secure in their marriage and no longer feel the need to compete against other women for a man’s attention.

Their husbands need to step up their game and make their wives feel that they, the husbands, still have other options.

Well, I joke about being on My 600-Pound Life but that's hyperbole.  I couldn't be *morbidly obese to the point of being disabled* happy.  

The nuts and bolts of it is that if it weren't for wanting them to be, if not actually *proud* of me, at least not embarrassed by me, I'd happily eat whatever I want, whenever I want.  When I was fat it didn't particularly bother me.  I had 3 kids, he was fat too, seemed *normal* and just the way it goes when you get older, etc.  Sure, I'd miss thin me from time to time and if I could have snapped my fingers and lost the weight I would have but it wasn't all that important in the grand scheme of things.

We did change our diet when our oldest was a toddler....felt like we needed to set an example for her for healthier eating....but it didn't result in weight loss and at a certain point you just think this is your body's set weight and, while obviously not ideal, it isn't really a hardship.  That human capability for adapting to the situation comes into play and it's just life.  I'm a content (some say lazy ) person by nature.  I'm always happy and settled and where my weight landed on the scale didn't change that.  

Because they've locked in a chump and don't have to try any more. If he doesn't like it, the State will allow her to loot him no matter how shitty she has been. Even more rewards await if she's spawned a couple crotch goblins.

That you Spanky?

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So he's got happy wife happy life syndrome?

Just because I came along and my little sister came along didn't mean my father surrendered his balls/wallet to our mothers purse...

I've had this conversation too many times to count when discussing raising a family with women I've dated.
Blows their fucking mind you can actually have both... in fact. They get PISSED if you insist with verifiable proof in the form of old photo albums, you can, in fact, have fun, have nice things, have hobbies, go on adventures AND HAVE A FAMILY. You don't drop the kids off somewhere, you include them in on the fun...

What's more comical, is when they meet my sister and she even goes The fuck you mean he can't have/do because you want to get married/have kids? Life doesn't stop simply because ring and kids!

And that is entertaining as all hell-When the women of my family call a tyrant with tits into questioning, they usually eject shortly after as they can't pull the help a sister out card with them...

Never mind the gal pals. They're down right brutal.
There was only 1 I've had that understood you could in fact have both... I almost married her too.

yep

Been married almost 50 years. Wife is PISSED at her weight. She's about 10 pounds over what she was when I met her.

Do we....work in the same warehouse?

You can see it coming if you know what to look for.

Pushing 70. During mental pause she gained a little weight; but shedded it off when the power surges settled down. She is a size 6 petite.
Me on the other hand, I have not been that successful.    

A word of advice, never complain about the cost of things women like to do and buy to make them more attractive. Take time to thank them for making the effort to make themselves attractive and how proud it makes you feel to be her husband.

Suburbia parenting SOP is degenerate as fuck to me.

So, they bring the yuppie named butter golems home, let them pig out while playing video games, on phones/tablets with social media.
Only to stop to eat dinner.

The excuses and almost competitive nature of the boxed wine fueled house fraus and house sows is fucking
Seriously. Throw a party and invite everyone over.

@spidey07 has witnessed this too.

The mothers all compete against one another over who's cherub is both the greatest little angel in the world while simultaneously being the most retarded and addled by health disorders.

You'll hear things like...
Johnny is on the spectrum...
Excuse me, what? I'd slap the taste out of her mouth if she were my wife. You don't go bragging over how fucked up the kid is you fucking moron, you brag about their overcoming challenges, growing into someone you're proud to call your son/daughter! Not excuse a lack of discipline with parenting in pill form, how allergic they are to everything.
I don't buy it.

I have started some hilarious verbal battles resulting in a munchausen suffering mentally ill woman rewarded with kids and ring, breaking down into tears and screaming.

I don't buy it for one second the kids are all retarded or suffer from debilitating allergies to everything in existence.
Oh we're gluten free because junior...
Strange. I just gave him something to snack on that isn't gluten free, he doesn't seem to be struggling for air or breaking out in a rash or blowing his ass out while barfing at the same time so... I think you need your head checked...

Oh, he's autistic/on the spectrumz!
No. He's shy because you stunted his growth by locking him inside with video games rather than go make friends and do things with friends out of fear he'll get hurt... he's a boy... it's what we do when we are boys... we get hurt. It's your job as mom to slap a bandaid on that skinned knee, send us back out to take that bike off more jumps and encourage us to learn from that failed landing you moron... not protect us from ourselves.

Oh he's got the ADD/ADHD
No. He has a lack of a foot in his ass when he's deserved it, and it doesn't help you hop him up on straight sugar in the morning and send him off to be a fidgeting distraction hyper charged on stimulating sugar. That doesn't justify a pill... that should be as simple as making the kid a real breakfast.. but half you dipshits can't cook so cereal and sugar on top it is. I'd like to see you load up on sugar and be told to sit still listen for 8 hours.
ADD/ADHD my ass.

There are parents who truly do have kids that have legitimate disabilities. This is degenerate to glorify your piss poor parenting and claim they're just as disabled as those who truly are. Shame on you.

I don't know what it is with cityiots and suburbanites... us hicks in the sticks didn't have overwhelming disorders-curable with a pill...
The few that did? That wasn't something mom or dad bragged about for attention/validation... that was something they kept a secret. For 2 reasons.
1. If the kid is that fucked up? Truly, honestly, sadly, afflicted with a legitimate disorder? Mommy and daddy didn't go to bbq/block parties and brag... they were home tending to their kids needs.
2. That shit wasn't something to be proud of.
Most resented themselves blamed themselves for having kids with health issues. Not using it for attention.

Here in dah burbz? You're the fucked up one if your kid isn't on some spectrum, down with some disorder, on a slew of pills, allergic to everything, and you're the fucked up one if you insist they be active/creative outdoors instead of cooped up with junk food and video games.

Must be something in that town/city treated water if everyone's kid is all sorts of fucked up...
I don't buy it. I knew kids with legitimate disorders.

These kids? Lack of discipline, poor parenting, and poor diets.
Munchausen mommy will tell you different though.

I don't buy it. I don't believe it. They do the shit for attention through their kid and that's disgusting.
There's people who actually have kids with legitimate health issues out there... these munchausen suffering fools should have their head examined for it. I do find it repulsive.

And lock them in their rooms to be anti social... then wonder why they're uncomfortable in social settings? Yeah, boxed wine fueled mother of the year award for that one.
Easier to blame it on Muh spectrumz Muh disorderz than it is to say, I am too insecure to allow my kid to be a kid, and do kid things...easier to plop a video game tablet and phone in their lap and coddle and shelter and make excuses for them for an eternity...
Then wonder why they're shy/nervous/uncomfortable around others... absolutely degenerate.

ConfoundZ has returned! I take it he gave his fresh ding dong out and forgot to wrap it...

LOL.

That's all about as accurate as the stereotype that rural kids run around in coveralls and bare feet fucking their siblings.

Cuz they aren't getting chased after anymore. They don't have to impress more or less. Married & pumped out a few kids. Only until they are cheated on do they see why

My wife is thinner now than when we married.  Still not "thin", but thinner.

Can’t put a price on happiness. Ask me how I know. Living my best life single and free.

I think there is a class on this subject, some women get masters degrees

That was all planned. She knew no other woman wants a plump guy, so she fed you to make you less desirable to other women. It's a known tactic.

Went to my 20 year HS reunion many years back.
The hottie girls in HS looked like linebackers 20 years out , the average girls blossomed.

One girl that was a cheerleader then could not figure out who I was at the reunion.
She asked if I went to the school and what year I graduated and when I told her she said "man, you got a lot bigger" I said "so did you".

At that point I was curious who she was / is married to......

In my blue hellhole coastal state that reads less like parody and more like a field biologist's notes

1) Marry genetics and family. Most women get huge. Look at their mom. Would you want to be married to her? If not, it's your fault for not choosing correctly. This was my problem, not for body shape but emotional immaturity.
2) Most women come in 2 categories:
 Cat 1: The women who take care of their kids typically have less time to take care of themselves.
 Cat 2: These women stay selfish AFTER kids. They are shitty moms, don't participate in extra curricular activities and mostly abandon their husband and kids emotionally. (Lucky me!)

Personally I would rather has a wife who loves my kids and participates and I'm really into skinny girls, body type and sex life. I just chose wrong by looking at the wrong genetics.

Unmarried guys - PSA: Don't make the same mistake. Save yourselves now. Get to know their mom. If you can't see yourself married to her mom in 20 years, bail now.

Wife can still fit all 11o lbs into her wedding dress from 32 years ago

working all this into a future safety share.

too many youngsters who don't know what they don't know.

My dad and his being overweight and stricken with the beetus is a big motivator for me too. He’s never really tried to do anything to change the situation and just blindly followed the same doctor’s advice for 2 decades. And, amazingly, his beetus has just gotten worse over the years and he takes piles of pills every day.

Definition of insanity and all that. I know I’m not going to just lay down and take it. Fuck all that.

Thanks, Captain Obvious.

I was just there in January. I didn’t see many disgustingly obese people waddling around. I saw a younger crowd that was still in good shape.

I don’t understand this mindset. I have nobody that I’m beholden to when it comes to my physical condition. I just don’t want to be fat. The food is disgusting, the fit of the clothes is awful, it’s harder to do everything. I can’t carry a pistol comfortably or get in and out of the car/bed/whatever, the lifestyle is detrimental to every aspect of your health, you’re a detriment to those around you because you are slow and take up too much space in a car/bus/airplane and you are a liability in an emergency situation. You are harder to deal with for emergency, medical, public safety folks, etc, etc, etc. Being happy with being obese means you are happy with being a burden on society.

Simple. She’s lying to you and herself about how much she eats.

Nailed it. Those fatties need to have that competitive hamster in their head tickled.

And for some people here its hot...go figure.

Considering that 40+% are obese, I wonder what the real % is for being fat?  (note: I did NOT say 'overweight'. You can have more muscle mass and a high BMI despite bodyfat % being 15% or under for males, and 24% or under for females)

I think the quip about Italian women doubling in size after marriage (and I heard this in Italy, not about Italian Americans), was around much longer than that.

I'm the same 330 pounds I've been since middle school, and yeah my gross wife went from 110 to 125.  Fucking dumped her.

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This is a fascinating post.  So Much sputtering anger!  I could spend a week dissecting it, but we can’t do these things anymore.

You do realize, that You are most likely on the bad end of the spectrum?

Unintentional irony is the best irony.  

Woman Ive been with since 1989 weighs less now then when we met.  Trying to get her to put some weight on now, think she is up to 113lbs.    LOL and I am a millionaire now!

I'm not so sure about that.

One thing that always slapped me in the face was touching back down in the US, after traveling overseas. It REALLY hits home just how much fatter Americans are in general.

P.S.

The US is an oddity in that we seem to have more extremes. Compared to other developed countries, I've seen a much greater number of people who range from fat to obese, while also simultaneously seeing more men who obviously lift weights.

People in EU countries seem to more commonly fall between those extremes. There aren't as many obese people, but pumping iron also doesn't seem to be as popular/common.

Maybe you should be better at identifying self absorbed, unprincipled, lying ass c-bombs.

This is the crux of it as far as her motivations. And because she’s chosen this immoral path, she’s wholly unhappy inside and is on lots of depression meds, which only serve to mask the pain in her dark heart and she eats more and self loathes herself to obesity.

Most of them are practicing self-delusion, same as the guys who argue “Debt is Good!!!”
Those weirdoes who truly lust after it, are the luckiest men alive.

Y’all should be besties.

Same reason you went from a size 32 waist to a size 44 stud.