You may not be obligated, but your life will be destroyed if you if you take the risk, lose and try to opt out.

No, by doing what she feels she wants to do to be a good partner. I will put her needs above mine, and hope she does the same. I'm talking about a woman who needs to have everything, and they get worn down, embittered, and remain unfulfilled because they are a spinning to many plates at the same time. Unable to raise good kids, keep the house clean, please her boss at work, please her husband, etc., etc., etc.

For every thing we do, we become a little less good as we add more and more task to the mix. Filipinas are happy to run the household and take care of the kids, and yes to work for income if they feel it's needed.

I know it's 5/95

There’s something that bugs me these discussions . I’m a big quirky dork. Before I got married I had no money. Never had a real job. No one would say I was particularly good looking.

I don’t believe that any girlfriend settled for me. When we were together we spun in each other’s orbit with everything else being a distraction. Yeah, eventually I would move on but I can’t believe they looked at me and said “he’ll do”. I never thought that of them

Tears and random emails tell me I’m not delusional. I’m also not a Chad or whatever.

I don’t think women decide to pick a sucker to  settle down with.  I think passion fades and they don’t know how to love someone once the euphoria and novelty is gone.

Lot of truth in that and that is a big part of the problem. Woman have been conditioned to think that life is a neverending fairytale. Once the newness wears off and reality sets in the craziness appears. Doesn't help when they see people on social media that appear to live on perpetual vacations and they blame their husbands for their boring life.

That's why you need a strong frame and strong purpose and ensure that she fits into that. Give her a lot to do. They get bored far faster than we do.

Or you could just skip all that bullshit altogether, save your energy for something productive.

Why do something productive alone when you can do it together plus have sex? [and no, I'm not talking about being married.]

Being married to one or more women and having a huge family to create your empire and trust group is old old old order thinking.

Being married in suburbia with 2.2 kids is old old order thinking.

Floating through life as a bachelor relying on the government apparatchik/order structure for security in your senescence is old order, pre-covid strategy.

Reproducing with one or more women and having a huge family to ensure security in a crumbling, dysfunctional future, is back on the menu boys.

My wife of 21 years passed away 8 months ago.

I really, really miss HER and all the things she did for us.  It all seems like a distant memory, now.

But, at this time in my life, I don't know if I really want another person.  The freedom is really nice, but the responsibilities I've inherited really suck, being single.
If I meet someone, who fits the bill, I don't really know if I would pursue or not.  I guess I'll find out one of these days.

Sorry for that brother. It's got to be awful losing your mate, I cannot imagine. My prayers are with you. You'll know when your ready, and you'll know when your not.

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I put who I am in there but it says I don't exist.

dear pleasure journal...

Or the rise of men that dont want an obese, radical feminist progressive liberal partner.

I'm not lonely, I'm drunk.

People tend to use what they have access to and may be familiar with. In places with tight gun control like China/Korea/Russia  pesticide poisons are a high use  method, especially in rural areas, where as in cities long falls are.

There is another factor, when women use firearms, they often aim it at their chest for the heart,  compared to men who aim at the head for the brain. Most people think of their heart in the center of chest, which is wrong.

That male compared to female gunshot location difference  has been attempted to be explained away by women's vanity. Not wanting to mess up their face/beauty...or some shit....    

Although I think it may be difference in familiarity with ballistics and anatomy knowledge. Where people that shoot themselves in the chest, put the barrel to the  center of the chest,  not to the left side, to hit the heart.  Thinking they were aiming for the heart, when they were not aiming at such, and this is one factor in the several "possible reasons"  you have more females survive gun shot suicide attempts.

 In the male group,   that they may have more experience and do not over estimate the lethality of a single shot, or a smaller caliber.  This may be due to more males being exposed to firearms,  and the bullet's  ballistic knowledge. Which could come  from the military service (most older males served), hunting, and other recreational shooting activities.  Adding to that, many of these older males that grew up hunting and consider "if the animal ran for more than 25 feet after being shot , to  have been a bad shoot" . Due to shot placement, distance, and/or caliber used.   This group prided themselves on very humane kills, with preferably dropping the animals where they stood when hunting.  So when it comes time to end their life they would chose to do such to themselves  with an appropriate caliber and better shot placement.  

Suicide statistics are weirdly complex and seem to contradict themselves,  and have a lot of researcher personal pet theory  in the ""reasons"".   I'll step down off a soapbox before I write long rant how the "severeness of the method" is considered the big factor  for getting help and how Mental Health  screws the pooch by not factoring in  "how much that person was ""certain"" that their method would work" . Which  is not taken into that evaluation as highly, if at all.  That can cause someone to be dismissed , and/or downgraded for seriousness of their  suicide falsely, which is the last thing we want.

I did as well.  I've lost touch with reality over the last 3 years.  I'm completely disconnected and don't even know how to begin being normal again.  I work at home and go weeks without speaking to anyone outside of work conference calls.  

I haven't gone to a normal, group social event in probably 2 years.  I work, go to the gym, come home every day.  That's it.  Go shoot once in a while.  Clean my house, cut my grass, etc.  Most times I feel fine.  Occasionally, the misery of loneliness sets in for a few days.

I dated some nice girls for a while over the years, but always ended it within probably 6 months.  I've never had a girl break up with me because I did it before they ever got a chance.  They 100% would have eventually I'm sure.  I've always wanted to be with someone.  When I actually am, I feel an anxious feeling of being trapped and need to get out.

It's probably because I've never really liked anyone I ever dated.  It might be mental illness of some kind quite frankly.

Fuck it, what're ya gonna do?

The results are loads of fun. This will show my wife that I'm a real catch!

I said it in another thread a day or so ago.  

Get your self a German shorthaired pointer.  Friendly and loyal.

Even the Elephant Man could have gotten laid back then, now as a young guy you've got your work cut out for you.

Always more than one.  Also "my perfect marriage for 20-years" blah, blah, blah.  Even top of their game men, Sly Stallone for example, are now losing half their wealth to a bitch after 25-yrs of marriage.

Your analogy is far lacking.  For when either the employee quits or is fired he doesn't lose half his retirement and is forced by a kangaroo court to work as a modern slave for up to 18-years (child support) or the rest of his life (alimony).

No kidding, exactly what does the woman do to accelerate a man's life in a majority of marriages

Figures, woke purple-haired, cat herder who can't even straight up answer a fundamental question about her qualifications for her job or more to the point lack of qualifications.

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#33 The match rate is very low for men
As already explained, men swipe right more often than women, and women have more success and matches. The match rate for women is at 10%, while for men it’s a measly 0.6%. If you’re a man asking what is the average match rate for guys on Tinder, sorry to disappoint.

Heck, get a horse.

You'll be outnumbered 20-1 by hot, fit, shapley, tight breeches, horse chicks.

And if not interested, you've still got a fuzzy friend.



Unless you're one of those happy being single people(as I am), then it's a bit like being hunted.

Nothing, they create obstacles.

Maybe offer to deliver her some fresh produce  from your garden.

I kept fuckin telling you that by like just 3 descriptors alone you're the goddamn chosen one brah

I'm emotionally available, a great communicator, and I share my values.


I'm also fat, nearsighted and balding.



Where Ya at, ladies?

Y’all are overthinking this shit. I have been married 3x. First one was 3.5 years and the second one was 20 years. I have been happily married a 3rd time for 10 years.

3 things you need to know:

If you want to be alone you can be.

If you don’t want to be alone you can absolutely find someone.

If it doesn’t work out buy them a house and tell them to go away. They can be replaced and so can you. Trust me sometimes it’s worth it.

Married, thanks.

I put in a divorced friend's info and got 0.0000%: white/55-60/single/6'5"/in shape/high income. But he doesn't have a date this weekend.  

There is a book called "Attachment" which will answer your questions. You probably have an avoidant attachment style.

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theres like a billion trillion single chicks in philippines itching for a man of just about any age to come along. 82 degrees and breezy ocean air all year long. was single and kept getting robbed by average american chicks until i found out and met my wife over there. had no idea.

Hahaha...

Rather drunk right now but you sound like me over the last 3 years.  Only difference is it cost me my marriage (maybe) as the wife moved out but doesn’t want the divorce (??).

Yes! Exactly what I did. Love my good, good girl. Filipinas are great wives, but like everywhere else there are good and bad women, the percentage of good in P.I. Is much higher though.

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A warning next time!  That’s just gross.

That's the primary reason I left my last girlfriend.

She was too nice. Let me walk all over her. Would always submit to anything I said or did, regardless of how stupid it was or how drunk I was.

It pissed me off.

She wasn't a partner. She was a door mat.

Not a dumb girl either. She got her Master's degree before I did. Ended up with a Doctorate in biomedical engineering.

She just wouldn't ever call me out, because "I was the man".