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Posted: 1/22/2023 10:03:45 PM EDT
[#1]
She’s trying to manipulate you. You asked her to go to an event with you which she’d only do if the two of you left by 10pm — then she does something else and stays out until 12?
If she’s not responding you should just stop texting/calling. When she finally responds, ignore it for a couple days before smoothing things out. Then bang her once more and eject. Winning |
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Posted: 1/22/2023 10:04:34 PM EDT
[#2]
Quote HistoryQuoted: I have a social obligation with her, her sister, and her sister's BF who I'm buddies with tomorrow that I have to attend. We shall see what happens then Day 1 |
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Posted: 1/22/2023 10:04:48 PM EDT
[#3]
What was she doing out so late? He side dick, that's whay she was doing.
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Posted: 1/22/2023 10:05:13 PM EDT
[#4]
Quote HistoryQuoted: I have a social obligation with her, her sister, and her sister’s BF who I’m buddies with tomorrow that I have to attend. We shall see what happens then Perfect opportunity before this event, to tell her to stop acting childish and calm the fuck down. You’re welcome |
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Posted: 1/22/2023 10:05:15 PM EDT
[#5]
Quote HistoryQuoted: Don’t capitulate. You’re in the right here and she’s being controlling. @NickSaban11 What does ChatGPT say about this situation? 
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Posted: 1/22/2023 10:05:32 PM EDT
[#6]
Think about the money you will save by ejecting
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Posted: 1/22/2023 10:05:49 PM EDT
[#7]
Definitely don’t go to this “social function” with her family. Who cares. Tell her you don’t feel well or just tell her the truth. It will be more embarrassing for her to have to explain why you’re not there than anything else.
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Posted: 1/22/2023 10:06:46 PM EDT
[#8]
If she acts this way now then how about when.
1. You get married. 2. She has all the hormones going when pregnant. 3. She dose feel as attractive. 4. A pretty woman works along side you. Things don't get better, they get worse. If you're OK with sleeping with your parole officer then stick it out. But remember you chose the constant scrutiny. |
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Posted: 1/22/2023 10:06:46 PM EDT
[#9]
Quote HistoryQuote HistoryYup |
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Posted: 1/22/2023 10:07:06 PM EDT
[#10]
I do back flips when I can get rid of the wife for an evening. Girlfriend is retarded.
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Posted: 1/22/2023 10:08:01 PM EDT
[#11]
100%eject
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Posted: 1/22/2023 10:08:29 PM EDT
[#12]
Quote HistoryQuoted: Eject |
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Posted: 1/22/2023 10:08:36 PM EDT
[#13]
Quote HistoryQuoted: Wait, you voluntarily let her have your location? Yes, and texting her every 30 min too??? Wow, before OP ejects, he needs to demand she give him back his balls.... |
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Posted: 1/22/2023 10:09:23 PM EDT
[#14]
Quote HistoryQuoted: I’m getting this feeling. She’s been the most caring and loyal (I believe) girlfriend I’ve been with but I’m just seeing a ton of warning flags lately that have me concerned Quote HistoryQuoted: Quoted: Eject I’m getting this feeling. She’s been the most caring and loyal (I believe) girlfriend I’ve been with but I’m just seeing a ton of warning flags lately that have me concerned If she's sooooooo great, then why no ring and a date after three years? 
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Posted: 1/22/2023 10:09:50 PM EDT
[#15]
Quote HistoryQuoted: I’m getting this feeling. She’s been the most caring and loyal (I believe) girlfriend I’ve been with but I’m just seeing a ton of warning flags lately that have me concerned How old are the both of you? Have either of you been married before? |
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Posted: 1/22/2023 10:11:32 PM EDT
[#16]
Quote HistoryQuoted: Eject Quote HistoryQuoted: Eject She’s trying to control you passive aggressively. Quoted: Quoted: Wait, you voluntarily let her have your location? She was cheated on in the past so I give her my location when I’m out because I don’t want her to be concerned. Too much I’m sure Again, she is controlling you passively. She says she was cheated on to guilt you into submissiveness and allowing her to track you. Can you track her too? How do you know she wasn’t prowling while you were out? |
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Posted: 1/22/2023 10:12:03 PM EDT
[#17]
Quote HistoryQuoted: If she's sooooooo great, then why no ring and a date after three years? Because she’s controlling and dramatic? Or maybe he’s smart and sees marriage as a suckers bet for men? Either way she’s hitting the epiphany phase so it’s going to get worse if she cannot manipulate him into marriage. |
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Posted: 1/22/2023 10:12:05 PM EDT
[#18]
Reach above head
Grab both pull loops Pull HARD Prepare for full eject Gs Experience full eject Gs Rejoice. |
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Posted: 1/22/2023 10:12:22 PM EDT
[#19]
Quote HistoryQuoted: How old are the both of you? Have either of you been married before? Quote HistoryQuoted: Quoted: I’m getting this feeling. She’s been the most caring and loyal (I believe) girlfriend I’ve been with but I’m just seeing a ton of warning flags lately that have me concerned How old are the both of you? Have either of you been married before? 33/28 No Her Family is very religious / different race so that’s a friction area and tbh I’m not 100% sold |
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Posted: 1/22/2023 10:12:43 PM EDT
[#20]
Quote HistoryQuoted: Opinion withheld until you find out where SHE was during all this. |
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Posted: 1/22/2023 10:13:55 PM EDT
[#21]
Quote HistoryQuoted: Bang her sister and send her pics Or just eject. Either way, never let a girlfriend have that much say over how you live. |
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Posted: 1/22/2023 10:14:04 PM EDT
[#22]
Quote HistoryQuoted: Quote HistoryQuoted: Quoted: Opinion withheld until you find out where SHE was during all this. She was where she said she was - at a bar with a coworker and the coworker’s husband. If she lied it’ll come out. She got upset because I told her I wouldn’t be able to text much during a sit down dinner as it would be rude so she “stopped checking her phone” ?? I see what’s going on |
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Posted: 1/22/2023 10:14:31 PM EDT
[#23]
Quote HistoryQuoted: 33/28 You’re value is increasing. Hers is about to hit the wall. She’s gotta lock down your commitment soon or find another buyer before her looks fade. Is she Latina? |
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Posted: 1/22/2023 10:15:47 PM EDT
[#24]
Quote HistoryQuoted: You’re value is increasing. Hers is about to hit the wall. She’s gotta lock down your commitment soon or find another buyer before her looks fade. Is she Latina? Quote HistoryQuoted: Quoted: 33/28 You’re value is increasing. Hers is about to hit the wall. She’s gotta lock down your commitment soon or find another buyer before her looks fade. Is she Latina? Im white she’s non-Muslim middle-east |
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Posted: 1/22/2023 10:16:21 PM EDT
[#25]
If she acts this way now then how about when.
1. You get married. 2. She has all the hormones going when pregnant. 3. She dose feel as attractive. 4. A pretty woman works along side you. Things don't get better, they get worse. If you're OK with sleeping with your parole officer then stick it out. But remember you chose the constant scrutiny. |
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Posted: 1/22/2023 10:16:23 PM EDT
[#26]
Yeah fuck that - you were upfront with her. If she can’t handle you out late with friend s when you tell her as such there’s trust issues. I’d venture cautiously And call her out on it. Eject pending on answer.
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Posted: 1/22/2023 10:18:02 PM EDT
[#27]
Quote HistoryQuoted: You wanted her to go. She didn't want to. You went in direction A. She went in direction B. You were on the grid, she was off. She was out later than what she offered to you WHILE she was off grid....... I'm sorry to be the one that has to tell you this but I only do so to look out for ya......She scrogged someone else and is mad at you to make herself feel less guilty. Time to pop smoke before she meets the rest of the department she's working at.  Attached File |
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Posted: 1/22/2023 10:18:21 PM EDT
[#28]
“She had my location and I was texting her every 30min or so”. WTF? You need to restore some respect into the relationship. And, don’t apologize for doing something reasonable that you told her you were going to do (and invited her to join). Take the heat and don’t wimp out here.
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Posted: 1/22/2023 10:18:36 PM EDT
[#29]
Quote HistoryQuoted: Im white she’s non-Muslim middle-east Like Israeli Jewish? Or middle-eastern other? |
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Posted: 1/22/2023 10:19:51 PM EDT
[#30]
Quote HistoryQuoted: Like Israeli Jewish? Quote HistoryQuoted: Quoted: Im white she’s non-Muslim middle-east Like Israeli Jewish? Nope, Christian and agreed on not apologizing - I won’t be. I went too far in making her comfortable and told her as much, that no matter what I do she’ll keep finding something to be annoyed about |
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Posted: 1/22/2023 10:20:04 PM EDT
[#31]
I wonder why she was cheated on…
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Posted: 1/22/2023 10:20:15 PM EDT
[#32]
Her desire to set a curfew for you, a grown adult male, is not worthy of respect. And should not be respected.
She's not your mother. How late you stay out is your business. |
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Posted: 1/22/2023 10:20:47 PM EDT
[#33]
Quote HistoryQuoted: Eject First post thing yet again |
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Posted: 1/22/2023 10:20:56 PM EDT
[#34]
Quote HistoryQuoted: I wonder why she was cheated on… I told her as much, that being more and more controlling will just make people cheat or break up with her, not continue to be happy lol |
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Posted: 1/22/2023 10:21:24 PM EDT
[#35]
Quote HistoryQuoted: Eject |
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Posted: 1/22/2023 10:21:30 PM EDT
[#36]
Quote HistoryQuoted: Her desire to set a curfew for you, a grown adult male, is not worthy of respect. And should not be respected. She's not your mother. How late you stay out is your business. Agreed. I said as much to her. Almost those exact words. |
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Posted: 1/22/2023 10:22:16 PM EDT
[#37]
Sounds like you've made up your mind to eject.
This will be a good eject. |
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Posted: 1/22/2023 10:22:18 PM EDT
[#38]
Quote HistoryQuoted: You’ve made many mistakes. Sharing your location with her is one. Checking in every 30-minutes is another. She’s not your parent. She’s not even your wife. She’s being immature and controlling. Soft next her. No texts or calls from you until she changes her attitude. If by next Monday ( a week) she hasn’t fixed her shitty attitude you can send a text. Something simple like “how was your weekend” She needs some competition anxiety in her life, give it to her. This. X1000. |
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Posted: 1/22/2023 10:22:43 PM EDT
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Posted: 1/22/2023 10:22:46 PM EDT
[#40]
Quote HistoryQuoted: Eject |
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Posted: 1/22/2023 10:23:07 PM EDT
[#41]
Quote HistoryQuoted: I told her as much, that being more and more controlling will just make people cheat or break up with her, not continue to be happy lol Have you considered fucking her dad and sending her the video to establish more dominance, not only over her but over her entire family? |
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Posted: 1/22/2023 10:24:05 PM EDT
[#42]
Quote HistoryQuoted: Have you considered fucking her dad and sending her the video to establish more dominance, not only over her but over her entire family? Quote HistoryQuoted: Quoted: I told her as much, that being more and more controlling will just make people cheat or break up with her, not continue to be happy lol Have you considered fucking her dad and sending her the video to establish more dominance, not only over her but over her entire family? I did not consider that actually. That’s not the worst idea |
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Posted: 1/22/2023 10:24:08 PM EDT
[#43]
Quoted: Annual party on Saturday (tech company), I told her that I wanted her to go. She said she didn’t want to if it would end late and said she’d go if we left by 10pm the latest. I said that’s unlikely and asked if she would stay out later. She said I should go out, have fun, and in a joking way (I thought) said she’d be angry at me for going out late She had my location and I was texting her every 30min or so. She went out as well until midnight, and stopped texting me for 2 hours. I get back home from hanging out with a bunch of dude coworkers at 330AM, text her goodnight, and now today she won’t talk to me because I was “out so late”and that I disrespected her wishes to an event she didn’t even go to (after I said I wanted her to) Wise old men of GD, what is the answer here? Some additional context, I don’t really go out late very often, and I typically prioritize spending time with her and see her 3-5x a week  I don't like it, smell test wise. Interesting that she didn't want to stay out late past 10:00pm, so she goes out to midnight.  Just outside in here, having to message her every 30 minutes, and that's like a rule for you that you follow, but she kinda phases in and out as she pleases Re: these "rules", means only you are living by them, if we're being honest. She's being silly. It's ridiculous. She's 28 not a middle schooler. IMHO don't marry this woman how she is currently. If you get can get this to where you're not tip-toeing around 500 conditions to keep her happy, and she can act like adult, okay. (And that might take 2 years), but this is bad news. People who need 500 things to go right otherwise they're unhappy, are unhappy people. Naturally miserable. She's found ways and tools to create conditions for you, using guilt, that she doesn't really even appreciate at this point. Do you have to dump her now? No, but you would be justified in doing that. INSTEAD, you kinda have to grow her up, and have more freedoms, and she has to learn to trust. Not, guilt-manipulate people into making 100 new rules for people. Because she would do this to your children. She would add rule after rule after rule, like bricks in a wall, forever. Why wouldn't she? The tactic is effective. |
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Posted: 1/22/2023 10:24:15 PM EDT
[#44]
Quote HistoryQuoted: No way I’d be in a relationship where you have to attach apple tags to each other. If she is that insecure it’s likely she been the cheater as well as the cheated. This. My wife goes out of town for a long weekend with her college friends once a year. I immediately plan either a fishing/range/hunting trip depending on season. We definitely do NOT constantly update each other exactly what we’re doing. Sorry to say, but if a relationship requires constant mutual surveillance that relationship is doomed. |
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Posted: 1/22/2023 10:25:21 PM EDT
[#45]
OP is a moron. GF told him he could do something and he took it at face value. Obviously, GF expected him to read between the lines and bailed on the occasion.
 Rookie mistake... |
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Posted: 1/22/2023 10:25:40 PM EDT
[#46]
I’d bail
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Posted: 1/22/2023 10:25:48 PM EDT
[#47]
Quote HistoryQuoted: She was cheated on in the past so I give her my location when I’m out because I don’t want her to be concerned. Too much I’m sure fuck drama. they use that excuse as a tool. |
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Posted: 1/22/2023 10:27:07 PM EDT
[#48]
at your age, girls are dime a dozen. go find another one.
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Posted: 1/22/2023 10:27:31 PM EDT
[#49]
Quoted: Annual party on Saturday (tech company), I told her that I wanted her to go. She said she didn’t want to if it would end late and said she’d go if we left by 10pm the latest. I said that’s unlikely and asked if she would stay out later. She said I should go out, have fun, and in a joking way (I thought) said she’d be angry at me for going out late She had my location and I was texting her every 30min or so. She went out as well until midnight, and stopped texting me for 2 hours. I get back home from hanging out with a bunch of dude coworkers at 330AM, text her goodnight, and now today she won’t talk to me because I was “out so late”and that I disrespected her wishes to an event she didn’t even go to (after I said I wanted her to) Wise old men of GD, what is the answer here? Some additional context, I don’t really go out late very often, and I typically prioritize spending time with her and see her 3-5x a week Dude this has red flags all over. Eject, then re-evaluate your dating methods. You have some work to do |
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Posted: 1/22/2023 10:28:24 PM EDT
[#50]
Quote HistoryQuoted: Wait, you voluntarily let her have your location? My friend/coworker does this. We were driving back from a job and we decided to stop at home depot, which is literally 300 ft off of the normal route to his house. Literally 10 seconds after turning off the normal route and towards home depot he is getting bombarded with texts asking where the hell he is going. Fucking so creepy. |
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