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Posted: 9/28/2023 3:19:04 PM EDT
[#1]
Quote HistoryQuoted: This Quote HistoryQuoted: Quoted: Honestly I’d never trust to stay with any woman that puts out on the first date. She’s a whore with many issues This This x 10 A minimum of 2 weeks of dating for a keeper. Anything less have fun and enjoy. But try your hardest within those first two weeks. |
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Posted: 9/28/2023 3:19:48 PM EDT
[#2]
If she had her fingers crossed then the pinky promise is null and void.
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Posted: 9/28/2023 3:20:03 PM EDT
[#3]
Is OP already back with her yet?
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Posted: 9/28/2023 3:22:47 PM EDT
[#4]
Quoted: Been dating for 11 1/2 months. Before we were "officially" BF/GF we did a Pinky Swear that we wouldn't F other people even tho we weren't official yet. Swore to each other we would tell each other if we did F someone else as a courtesy to the other person. Last night she told me that about a month into me and her dating, she went on a date and Fd another dude. She and I had already had sex a bunch of times when this would have occurred. I told her she lied and broke my trust and our little agreement we had. Thing is, her kids and my kids have become friends and we were doing family functions together on both sides. Fing BS. This morning I ejected. It’s silly to be exclusive after a month and a half of dating. But she broke the deal, good eject. |
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Posted: 9/28/2023 3:25:20 PM EDT
[#5]
I created this in 2018 and revised it in 2020. Feel free to use it as a template and change what you need. Btw, they all lie, so the application is more of a checklist for yourself once you get to know them better. Sorry OP, but you did the right thing.
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Posted: 9/28/2023 3:25:23 PM EDT
[#6]
Quote HistoryQuoted: OP is a single dad...  Quote HistoryMen and women are different. |
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Posted: 9/28/2023 3:28:48 PM EDT
[#7]
If she's told you it was once like 10 months ago, there have been more she's not telling you about because in her dumb fucking mind, telling you about 'that one time' was an attempt to absolve her of everything she had done so she could get a clean slate with herself.
Women are fucking retarded like that. Had I not found basically a unicorn (never married, no kids, no real long-term boyfriends as she had been stuck in medical school/residency/fellowship for 10 years across 3 states) after I got divorced at 30 I would NEVER have gotten married again or had gotten into another LTR. I remember looking at the dating pool at 30+ and just fucking laughing. My plan at that point was to basically have a girlfriend until she annoyed me or did something stupid and then rinse/repeat. |
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Posted: 9/28/2023 3:28:57 PM EDT
[#8]
Roses are red.
Mushrooms are spores. So take some advice Stop dating whores. |
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Posted: 9/28/2023 3:29:27 PM EDT
[#9]
Quote HistoryQuoted: Serious question Ben. You’re obviously looking for a wife. Can you not find a younger woman with no children? It seems that would be Far better, in every way. Why would a younger woman want to play his ex’s saved game? |
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Posted: 9/28/2023 3:31:57 PM EDT
[#10]
Quote HistoryQuoted: Why would a younger woman want to play his ex’s saved game? I'm so happy I'm not the only one who says this. |
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Posted: 9/28/2023 3:32:43 PM EDT
[#11]
That sucks. You did the right thing.
When I was dating, I'd get to a point with the other party that we were banging each other a lot. Both parties wanted an understanding to keep the risk down. Sometimes I brought it up, sometimes it was her. |
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Posted: 9/28/2023 3:33:04 PM EDT
[#12]
Quote HistoryQuoted: Have you been tested for STD yet? You assume it’s him that needs to be concerned and not the other dudes… LOL 
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Posted: 9/28/2023 3:33:25 PM EDT
[#13]
Quote HistoryQuoted: I miss the days when stuff like this between me and a girl seemed so important. After dealing with the challenges of raising my kids, a couple miscarriages, hurricane damage, a house fire, a forced career change, dealing with cancer, dementia, family Court, civil litigation, other health issues, caring for my parents (physically and financially) bad investments, taxes and financial concerns, I’d like to go back to something easy with only the potential to hurt my pride. Sorry, OP. I’m not trying to belittle your problem. Stay with her or not, that’s up to you, but if that’s the worst thing that happens in your life, consider yourself a lucky man.  Attached File |
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Posted: 9/28/2023 3:34:16 PM EDT
[#14]
Quote HistoryQuoted: You made the right choice by ejecting, OP. Nobody needs a lying, cheating piece of shit in their life. |
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Posted: 9/28/2023 3:46:44 PM EDT
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Posted: 9/28/2023 3:51:57 PM EDT
[#16]
Good eject.
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Posted: 9/28/2023 3:56:00 PM EDT
[#17]
Quote HistoryQuoted: Good thing she did it before any knot was tied. Sucks for the kids though. |
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Posted: 9/28/2023 3:57:18 PM EDT
[#18]
Stop dating.
You have kids. Someone dating you means they’re dating the kids too. It’s probably tough enough on them already, you don’t need to mix drama mammas into the cake. Once the kids are somewhat self sufficient, date again. Seems tough, but it’s worth it. |
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Posted: 9/28/2023 3:57:29 PM EDT
[#19]
Quote HistoryQuoted: Pinky promise aint shit without a promise ring Rings don't plug holes. |
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Posted: 9/28/2023 3:59:20 PM EDT
[#20]
Quoted: Been dating for 11 1/2 months. Before we were "officially" BF/GF we did a Pinky Swear that we wouldn't F other people even tho we weren't official yet. Swore to each other we would tell each other if we did F someone else as a courtesy to the other person. Last night she told me that about a month into me and her dating, she went on a date and Fd another dude. She and I had already had sex a bunch of times when this would have occurred. I told her she lied and broke my trust and our little agreement we had. Thing is, her kids and my kids have become friends and we were doing family functions together on both sides. Fing BS. This morning I ejected. Swift and fitting reaction. You did well. |
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Posted: 9/28/2023 4:01:02 PM EDT
[#21]
You pinky swore before God. Mistakes were made.
The Lord preaches forgiveness. |
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Posted: 9/28/2023 4:06:28 PM EDT
[#22]
Quote HistoryQuote HistoryQuoted: Quoted: Both of us have two kids each. (I technically have 3, but one is dead). I'm 44, she is 41. No, I'm not in school; graduated college 20 years ago. Yes we did pinky swear, it was in fun and in confidence as we're both Gen X age. We both promised not to F other people pretty much right off the bat when we started dating even tho we weren't BF/GF. Yes, I fd her on the first date. and yes, I have put it in her butt. Helluva return to the thread... /media/mediaFiles/sharedAlbum/malfor-567.gif Busy thread. Only been a couple hours and it's 6 pages |
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Posted: 9/28/2023 4:08:54 PM EDT
[#23]
Quote HistoryQuoted: Also, 10 pages by 5 pm central. we're working on it as fast as we can!! |
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Posted: 9/28/2023 4:12:31 PM EDT
[#24]
Quote HistoryQuoted: It was me, and yes, it was good. but seriously, you're gf is trying to do the right thing by telling you. You should forgive her. After all Jesus said something to the effect of: From the Bible John 8.7 where Jesus tells the accusers of a woman of adultery, He that is without sin among you, let him first cast a stone at her. Yeah, but he also told her to go, and sin no more. |
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Posted: 9/28/2023 4:13:10 PM EDT
[#25]
Quote HistoryQuoted: Good eject. If she told you about one there was at least 4 And would be 40 more |
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Posted: 9/28/2023 4:13:23 PM EDT
[#26]
Quote HistoryQuoted: Rings don't plug holes. Pinkies do. |
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Posted: 9/28/2023 4:19:17 PM EDT
[#27]
Quote HistoryQuoted: Rings don't plug holes. Few years back.. Recently divorced.. So I was playing the field.. Had a married chick tell me this... She was hot.. From out of town... So I plugged the hole 
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Posted: 9/28/2023 4:19:34 PM EDT
[#28]
Still waiting on pics. Doesn’t anyone follow the rules any more?
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Posted: 9/28/2023 4:23:15 PM EDT
[#29]
Both got kids and are pinky swearing ...
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Posted: 9/28/2023 4:26:10 PM EDT
[#30]
Quote HistoryQuoted: Good eject. If she told you about one there was at least 4 Quoted for truth. You made the right call |
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Posted: 9/28/2023 4:26:38 PM EDT
[#31]
Good eject, better than impending divorce that would have happened.
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Posted: 9/28/2023 4:28:02 PM EDT
[#32]
Quote HistoryQuoted: I created this in 2018 and revised it in 2020. Feel free to use it as a template and change what you need. Btw, they all lie, so the application is more of a checklist for yourself once you get to know them better. Sorry OP, but you did the right thing. https://www.ar15.com/media/mediaFiles/52158/2018-Dating-Application-1_jpg-2969309.JPG https://www.ar15.com/media/mediaFiles/52158/2018-Dating-Application-2_jpg-2969310.JPG https://www.ar15.com/media/mediaFiles/52158/2018-Dating-Application-3_jpg-2969311.JPG OMG, #19 made me spew my drink on my desk. |
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Posted: 9/28/2023 4:29:28 PM EDT
[#33]
This one cuts the mustard for sure
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Posted: 9/28/2023 4:30:56 PM EDT
[#34]
Quote HistoryQuoted: Are you 16? Eject dude...you will never be okay with it. Your gut is telling you its not alright...listen to it. |
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Posted: 9/28/2023 4:32:29 PM EDT
[#35]
Oof. Sorry op
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Posted: 9/28/2023 4:32:32 PM EDT
[#36]
Quote HistoryQuoted: Pinky swear? How old are you??? Pretty sure he was just being funny dude...he basically just meant they more or less agreed to be exclusive. |
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Posted: 9/28/2023 4:32:55 PM EDT
[#37]
Quote HistoryQuoted: I miss the days when stuff like this between me and a girl seemed so important. After dealing with the challenges of raising my kids, a couple miscarriages, hurricane damage, a house fire, a forced career change, dealing with cancer, dementia, family Court, civil litigation, other health issues, caring for my parents (physically and financially) bad investments, taxes and financial concerns, I’d like to go back to something easy with only the potential to hurt my pride. Sorry, OP. I’m not trying to belittle your problem. Stay with her or not, that’s up to you, but if that’s the worst thing that happens in your life, consider yourself a lucky man. Well said. |
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Posted: 9/28/2023 4:33:50 PM EDT
[#38]
Responses in no particular order:
Pinky Swear: She and I made a verbal agreement one morning not to F other people due to risk of STD. We both agreed on it. the Pinky Swear was just a silly way of sort of confirming it. Incidentally, the Pinky Swear kind of became a goofy/cute thing between us, as we both grew up in the 80s/90s. I had a year full of: Tons of sex; 2-3 times a day anytime we were together. Plus BJ on request. She was always DTF. She made 3x more money than me. Got to stay in her nice, big house and sleep in her big, comfy bed for free for nearly a year. Got to use her swimming pool, and did a ton of grilling/smoking food and partying. She likes to drink (shocking) and would always buy plenty of booze. She took me to some awesome concerts/music shows together and she bought the tickets. I moved 80% of the shit I could grab at 5am this morning out of her house. Left some clothes and a really nice navy sport jacket, but that can all be replaced. Grabbed my kitchen knives, Glock, and straight razor, and work clothes on the way out, plus my fishing bait and pet lizard. I handed her her keys back this morning when she was doing all the crying/I'm in love with you BS. No, I have not called/texted/contacted her today whatsoever. |
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Posted: 9/28/2023 4:34:35 PM EDT
[#39]
Things will look up when you get out of middle school.
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Posted: 9/28/2023 4:37:47 PM EDT
[#40]
Quote HistoryQuoted: Good eject. If she told you about one there was at least 4 |
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Posted: 9/28/2023 4:38:53 PM EDT
[#41]
Good eject... and I'd bet there's not just 1.
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Posted: 9/28/2023 4:40:31 PM EDT
[#42]
It's in everyone's best interest to split. She will do it again.
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Posted: 9/28/2023 4:40:48 PM EDT
[#43]
Quote HistoryQuoted: Responses in no particular order: Pinky Swear: She and I made a verbal agreement one morning not to F other people due to risk of STD. We both agreed on it. the Pinky Swear was just a silly way of sort of confirming it. Incidentally, the Pinky Swear kind of became a goofy/cute thing between us, as we both grew up in the 80s/90s. I had a year full of: Tons of sex; 2-3 times a day anytime we were together. Plus BJ on request. She was always DTF. She made 3x more money than me. Got to stay in her nice, big house and sleep in her big, comfy bed for free for nearly a year. Got to use her swimming pool, and did a ton of grilling/smoking food and partying. She likes to drink (shocking) and would always buy plenty of booze. She took me to some awesome concerts/music shows together and she bought the tickets. I moved 80% of the shit I could grab at 5am this morning out of her house. Left some clothes and a really nice navy sport jacket, but that can all be replaced. Grabbed my kitchen knives, Glock, and straight razor, and work clothes on the way out, plus my fishing bait and pet lizard. I handed her her keys back this morning when she was doing all the crying/I'm in love with you BS. No, I have not called/texted/contacted her today whatsoever. Seems silly to give that up over something relatively trivial that happened when you barely knew each other and neither of you knew if it would last. The cost/benefit analysis doesn't indicate eject |
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Posted: 9/28/2023 4:41:36 PM EDT
[#44]
Quote HistoryQuoted: Are you 16?  |
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Posted: 9/28/2023 4:42:56 PM EDT
[#45]
Quote HistoryQuoted: Responses in no particular order: Pinky Swear: She and I made a verbal agreement one morning not to F other people due to risk of STD. We both agreed on it. the Pinky Swear was just a silly way of sort of confirming it. Incidentally, the Pinky Swear kind of became a goofy/cute thing between us, as we both grew up in the 80s/90s. I had a year full of: Tons of sex; 2-3 times a day anytime we were together. Plus BJ on request. She was always DTF. She made 3x more money than me. Got to stay in her nice, big house and sleep in her big, comfy bed for free for nearly a year. Got to use her swimming pool, and did a ton of grilling/smoking food and partying. She likes to drink (shocking) and would always buy plenty of booze. She took me to some awesome concerts/music shows together and she bought the tickets. I moved 80% of the shit I could grab at 5am this morning out of her house. Left some clothes and a really nice navy sport jacket, but that can all be replaced. Grabbed my kitchen knives, Glock, and straight razor, and work clothes on the way out, plus my fishing bait and pet lizard. I handed her her keys back this morning when she was doing all the crying/I'm in love with you BS. No, I have not called/texted/contacted her today whatsoever. Sounds like you need to be focused on your career, living situation and your kids honesty. What’s your custody arrangement? |
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Posted: 9/28/2023 4:44:28 PM EDT
[#46]
A lot of people are hung up and ribbing the OP about the language "pinky promise."
The way I read it was the OP and this woman were dating, sexually active, over a month in and enjoying each others company. Either OP, the female, or both decided to verbally agree to be exclusive, which should eliminate all confusion about seeing other people from that point. This woman failed to adhere to that pact. Why she bothered to admit it 10 months later is strange. Did OP confess some sin to her first?? I say cut her loose and move on with life. I wish someone would have given me that advice a long long time ago. |
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Posted: 9/28/2023 4:47:12 PM EDT
[#47]
Quote HistoryQuoted: I miss the days when stuff like this between me and a girl seemed so important. After dealing with the challenges of raising my kids, a couple miscarriages, hurricane damage, a house fire, a forced career change, dealing with cancer, dementia, family Court, civil litigation, other health issues, caring for my parents (physically and financially) bad investments, taxes and financial concerns, I’d like to go back to something easy with only the potential to hurt my pride. Sorry, OP. I’m not trying to belittle your problem. Stay with her or not, that’s up to you, but if that’s the worst thing that happens in your life, consider yourself a lucky man. Yeah, I really can't disagree with this. With all of our other day to day "challenges", her Dad is taking the long way out. Cancer. At least he's still alert and not completely bedridden yet, but it's fucking killing her and I'm not so happy about it, either. Both of my parents have been gone for years now and he's really a good guy. |
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Posted: 9/28/2023 4:48:23 PM EDT
[#48]
Does she have an aesthetic butthole?
I’d be willing to overlook an awful lot for that. |
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Posted: 9/28/2023 4:50:19 PM EDT
[#49]
How she treats you is how she values you. If she did this a month in then she really didn't value you or your relationship to start with. Good on you for walking away, I would've done the same. If you don't respect yourself, why would she?
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Posted: 9/28/2023 4:50:25 PM EDT
[#50]
God damn. Went on a date with a random guy and instantly fucked him while in a committed relationship? Yeah. You did the right thing.
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