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Link Posted: 1/2/2018 7:25:47 PM EDT
[#1]
Don't exactly know.  Somewhere under $10K.

Married in her family church, then everyone got a full meal in lieu of a reception at a local restaurant.  No alcohol provided by us as she is Baptist, but we gave everyone their choice of filet mignon/fish/chicken so I don't think anyone could complain too much.  Probably about 60 folks or so there.

Music was provided by iphone speaker system - whoever wanted could plug in and play some tunes.  Had a friend of the wife's family doing photos.
Link Posted: 1/2/2018 7:26:32 PM EDT
[#2]
Did it on the beach in Hawaii. Total cost, about a grand. That covered photog, minister, and permit. It helped that I already was living in Hi, and there is no way in hell I was buying tickets for my entire brokeass family to join us.
Link Posted: 1/2/2018 7:26:37 PM EDT
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My nuts crept up close to my stomach.

Goddamn dude.
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$80k for 200+ people
My nuts crept up close to my stomach.

Goddamn dude.
I have some regrets on that. The biggest cost was the live band and 3 open bars. Gradituty at $6k for all the servers and bar people
Link Posted: 1/2/2018 7:27:27 PM EDT
[#4]
About $250 the first time, about $750 when we renewed our vows.
Link Posted: 1/2/2018 7:29:56 PM EDT
[#5]
You should include the cost of a divorce too: 20k plus for lawyer and 50% of your post marital assets.  It will cost you at least 100k.  Congratulations.
Link Posted: 1/2/2018 7:30:06 PM EDT
[#6]
About $60 in fees at the court house.

We went to our favorite Italian restaurant on the hill in st Louis afterwards, so about another 50 bucks.

Then we went home and celebrated with a bottle of Maker's Mark, so another $25
Link Posted: 1/2/2018 7:30:45 PM EDT
[#7]
about $2k. 100 people. we went cheap as we could, and made all the money back with the gifts.
Link Posted: 1/2/2018 7:31:49 PM EDT
[#8]
$1000 or so.
Link Posted: 1/2/2018 7:32:36 PM EDT
[#9]
Right at $10,000 for 100 people.

At a country club.  Chicken and salmon provided as meals.  Wedding ceremony at a chapel on a golf course by the lake at the country club.  Reception at their main lodge.  Chicken and salmon served as meals.  24 bottles of wine and I believe one keg of a local lager.  Photographer.

We did a lot of things ourselves for the small things.

My wife was awesome about it.  We set a financial goal and she knocked it out of the park.  I wanted a tiny wedding.  She wanted a big family event that didn't get too out of hand.  I'm glad we did it her way.
Link Posted: 1/2/2018 7:33:47 PM EDT
[#10]
About $20.  That comes to 50 cents per year so far.
Link Posted: 1/2/2018 7:34:03 PM EDT
[#11]
$35k-$40k.

Most of that was reception costs for the amazing venue in downtown St. Augustine (it seriously was amazing).

I think we had a little over 120 guests.
Link Posted: 1/2/2018 7:34:36 PM EDT
[#12]
No more than $5k.
I won’t do that again.
Link Posted: 1/2/2018 7:35:18 PM EDT
[#13]
$87
Link Posted: 1/2/2018 7:35:33 PM EDT
[#14]
Old Puerto Rican lady hand sewed my wife's dress for $400.
Got married in the old (1860's) post chapel on Fort Totten for free, gave the priest a 50 spot.
Took the party to a restaurant/pub in Queens and paid a total of $640 for food and bar tab.  To this day I know the tab was wrong, that is what the food would have come to but I don't know who covered the bar tab.
Link Posted: 1/2/2018 7:36:14 PM EDT
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This!

And also don't cheap out on food or dj. These 3 items cost the most but can make a big difference on the outcome of your wedding.
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Wife and I spent about $12k back in 2012. If you ask any of the attendees, our wedding was really awesome. Seriously one of the best times I've ever had and honestly I've never been to another wedding that held a candle to ours. Most of the money was spent on the reception hall/dinner and photographer.
DON'T SKIMP ON THE PHOTOGRAPHER! My wife's friend recently hired a friend "who is going to school for photography" and their wedding pictures are terrible.

We had ~100 guests.
This!

And also don't cheap out on food or dj. These 3 items cost the most but can make a big difference on the outcome of your wedding.
Absolutely correct.
Link Posted: 1/2/2018 7:37:03 PM EDT
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Did it on the beach in Hawaii. Total cost, about a grand. That covered photog, minister, and permit. It helped that I already was living in Hi, and there is no way in hell I was buying tickets for my entire brokeass family to join us.
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I did this as well.  Mine was $850.  Included the above plus flowers and a limo ride.

Of course that doesn't include the cost of the flight and hotel.  However, we were honeymooned in Hawaii so those costs were already sunk.
Link Posted: 1/2/2018 7:37:27 PM EDT
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About fifteen thousand. We had 200 people.

We've been happily married for almost two months now
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I love your Avatar.  I just wish he and Rose would've left some kids like them.
Link Posted: 1/2/2018 7:38:24 PM EDT
[#18]
Ours was about $5000 for 40 guests. Destination wedding to Alaska in July.  A decent chunk of that cost was us helping out with airfare for some of our less financially able friends who would've had a difficult time making it so if it wasn't for that we probably would've gotten by with about $3500.  Her dads a priest so he did it for free, the chairs we rented for 250 bucks from the local church in case we had to shitcan the beach idea due to bad weather, and the site fee on the beach was $25. A big portion of the rest of that was paying for dinner at the reception.  Our wedding planner was retiring from the job and  did ours for free and I think we paid the photographer around 1000 bucks for the pictures.
Link Posted: 1/2/2018 7:38:37 PM EDT
[#19]
Nothing, because im not a fool.

Any man that willingly gets married this day and age needs to have his brain examined.
Link Posted: 1/2/2018 7:41:16 PM EDT
[#20]
Played it smart and never married. Saved half my money...
Link Posted: 1/2/2018 7:41:47 PM EDT
[#21]
20K + the ring in 1997.  Still married tho so I guess thats only $1000/year. Hopefully if she decides to divorce me she dies off before she can file (I would actually be up quite a bit with life insurance figured in).
Link Posted: 1/2/2018 7:43:27 PM EDT
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$150-$200.  A few flowers and a modest cake.  We have been married 28 years, best investment I ever made.
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Good on you sir...

We spent $400 including rings at the pawn shop.  23 years so far and 4 great kids and one new grand kid.
Link Posted: 1/2/2018 7:43:33 PM EDT
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We’re planning an August wedding and want to keep total expenses under $10,000 for about 150 people. Any tips on how to get the most bang for the buck? We’re not looking for an extravagant reception but want to have a nice one.
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Have it last minute and find the folks who are not booked... there is a huge price reduction for a last minute wedding... sorry... I know that is not what you want to hear...

Weddings with long lead times tend to be more expensive as you have more time to add 'extra' items.
Link Posted: 1/2/2018 7:44:17 PM EDT
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Link Posted: 1/2/2018 7:44:27 PM EDT
[#25]
About 50 bucks or so back in 1976.

$25 donation to the wacko minister that married us (I'm not even sure he was legal to do it), and $25 or so for beer/cookout stuff for the few friends there.
Link Posted: 1/2/2018 7:45:48 PM EDT
[#26]
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About $60 in fees at the court house.

We went to our favorite Italian restaurant on the hill in st Louis afterwards, so about another 50 bucks.

Then we went home and celebrated with a bottle of Maker's Mark, so another $25
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This, $40 bucks at the San Diego County justice of the peace.

Went to Little Italy for dinner with all the family afterwards (parents paid for it) and got ice cream after.

Still married after 10 years.
Link Posted: 1/2/2018 7:46:41 PM EDT
[#27]
About $25k in 2009 for 150 people.  It was a package deal that included the venue, bbq, DJ, wedding cake, groom's cake

Included open bar with top shelf liquor
Link Posted: 1/2/2018 7:50:26 PM EDT
[#28]
We did our ceremony on the beach and then had the reception at a nice hotel that overlooked the water. We kept it pretty small, about 35 to 40 people, and no sit down dinner. We stepped up the food choices and had an open bar so all in we spent about $15k.
Link Posted: 1/2/2018 7:50:32 PM EDT
[#29]
Got married about 7 months ago. We were somewhere in the 8-10k range. I think. We haven't added everything yet. Photographer was well worth the money and not something to be done cheap. DJ was awesome. I thought he was expensive when we were looking for DJ's, but his price was cheap looking back and he did an awesome job. My wife did most of the planning and made all the signs and most of the decorations, then our bridal party and friends set everything up at the venue.

ETA: I think we had 65 ish people
Link Posted: 1/2/2018 7:52:13 PM EDT
[#30]
100-,50- for the license and 50- for the j.o.p, Just had our 10 year anniversary...
Link Posted: 1/2/2018 7:57:50 PM EDT
[#31]
About 100k... and I’ll be paying it back for the rest of my life throughout the divorce.
Link Posted: 1/2/2018 8:02:32 PM EDT
[#32]
About 5k for 300-ish people.

We had a lot of wedding stuff given to us as wedding gifts that cut the cost way down.
Link Posted: 1/2/2018 8:07:20 PM EDT
[#33]
About 1000.

Church wedding and reception.

Easy to cut expenses. Don't have wedding at a time when people expect a meal at the reception. Have reception at a church that doesn't allow liquor at the reception.

Pretty much everything you spend on the wedding is wasted. Get some flowers, a cake and spend your money elsewhere, like on a honeymoon with a massage. And, don't be a numb nut and finance any of it.

28 years later and still married.
Link Posted: 1/2/2018 8:08:34 PM EDT
[#34]
I had two receptions, one in California (OC) and one in Houston.  Cali was about  $12K  for roughly 180 guests, Houston was $25k for 550 guests.  It was exhausting but we made it all back and had left over enough for our honeymoon in HI.

ETA:  this was 20 years ago and guests gave money.
Link Posted: 1/2/2018 8:11:04 PM EDT
[#35]
Idk
$15-18k
Link Posted: 1/2/2018 8:13:11 PM EDT
[#36]
$25,000 in 1991.
Link Posted: 1/2/2018 8:13:18 PM EDT
[#37]
Hardly anything.....

But it's lasted for 42 years and 3 days....
Link Posted: 1/2/2018 8:14:12 PM EDT
[#38]
~$4,500 in inflation adjusted dollars.
Link Posted: 1/2/2018 8:16:47 PM EDT
[#39]
Flowers, venue for reception, photo/video, and  alcohol really run up the tab.
Link Posted: 1/2/2018 8:17:47 PM EDT
[#40]
I can't hardly remember back that far, maybe 25 bucks, going on 49 years now.
Link Posted: 1/2/2018 8:25:20 PM EDT
[#41]
around $3-4K
we had it at my parents property, rented a tent and used the barn. We bought the plates, tables, and chairs since it was cheaper than renting.
Got local catering, spent a decent chunck on Lots of beer, wine, water bottles, and soda (guest drank for free like it should be). A two kegs, some back up cans, and two bottles of Aldi winking owl at each table.
Biggest expenses were a real photographer and alcohol. My bother gave the gift of DJing and my aunt got us a Mariachi bang

It was a great party that people still talk about. We had 150-200 people and they always had a drink or food (no shortage since too much is just enough)

edit to add

my suit was hugo boss and $200 new (got the hook up at the local mall since I asked the manager if he ever got a killer deal in my size) a few months later he called and I got it.

Wife spent less around $100 (had a $100 of coupon as it was originally $200)

people thought we spent $10,000 or more
a few years after the wedding we got our dream house since we had money saved
Link Posted: 1/2/2018 8:29:28 PM EDT
[#42]
$100/per guest is about right.  Which is why when I get invited to weddings, that's how much I give as a gift.

My Wedding as $10,000 for 100 people.  Most of the money went into the food as I wanted a nice sit down dinner for everyone (I don't like buffets).  But the down side is last minute guests that crash the party had no food.  We did all the decorating and arrangements ourselves. Went cheap on the table favors by filling little glass bottles with chocolates.

I recommend getting a good photographer that will give you all the files, and not just ala-carte.  And he/she will know all the formal combinations of relatives to get together and photos.  Other than the marriage itself, photos are the only thing that will really last beyond that day, so make them really good.  not just disposable camera cameos of drunkard friends on a file.
Link Posted: 1/2/2018 8:29:55 PM EDT
[#43]
$50 for the licence $250 for the preacher man so $300. Just immediate family and we were married on an old railroad bridge in town. Had a party sub at our house that we bought a month earlier, that's where our money went. 18 years later looking back neither of us would do it any differently.
Link Posted: 1/2/2018 8:31:27 PM EDT
[#44]
I got married at the Las Vegas Gun Store. Highly recommend it. No need for a reception.
Link Posted: 1/2/2018 8:38:51 PM EDT
[#45]
Around 250 guests.  White Tie.  NYC.

Ridiculous amount of money.
Link Posted: 1/2/2018 8:40:02 PM EDT
[#46]
About 7,500 bucks.................that was wedding, reception, honeymoon and trip..............
Link Posted: 1/2/2018 8:41:24 PM EDT
[#47]
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$200

My bride and her sisters made sandwiches the ewnight before and the dress costs about $80. The rest was for the photos.

We've been married for 42 years now.
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Seems to be an inverse relationship between wedding cost and marriage duration.

30 years here, $1200 on wedding.
Link Posted: 1/2/2018 8:41:50 PM EDT
[#48]
Cheap.  We got married on the beach at my house.  Total spent may. have been $2,000.
Link Posted: 1/2/2018 8:42:09 PM EDT
[#49]
Around $100k. 70 guests. 10 years ago.
Link Posted: 1/2/2018 8:42:16 PM EDT
[#50]
$300 to rent the church and for the pastor to officiate. Marriage licenses (I needed multiple certified copies) were $300 as well.

$100 to rent a truck for the witnesses, because we got married at the end of a 30 mile dirt road. $100 for the reception at the saloon
next to the church.

So for the wedding itself, $800.

Her dress, $50, rings were under $500.

All the legal BS leading up to the wedding, about $10K. (Prenup plus she's a mail order bride, so lots of legal hoops.)

It can be done for under $100 in my state if you're both citizens, but after having going around once before, I don't recommend that at all.

First go around we did a small wedding as well, but had a huge reception at a fine dining restaurant. About 50 guests, I think the final tab
was $8K.
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