Originally Posted By BillofRights:
This one confuses me.   Horse girl Flight Attendant, Olympic Athlete, French Army Veteran.    Claims to be a virgin.    What are the odds of that, and what’s the rest of the story?    

Do you believe her?
Did you even try?      

C, 23, French.  Met up with her in Paris, blonde hair and blue eyes, wonderful smile, great personality, a flight attendant who loves horses.  Great wife material, DDs and still a virgin.  She's connected to the highest levels of French politics and she's very conservative.  Former Olympic athlete and French Army officer.  Foolishly I broke up with her for the next girl and now I regret it (see below).  We still talk.  She's a 9.

Originally Posted By lumper:


Not me.  I am happy to prefer the stability of my simple healthy family relationship with my children and one and only wife.

Originally Posted By BlueJames:
If you're unfamiliar with the term, here you go: Urban Dictionary

I got divorced last year and have spent the last 12 months dating various women of different cultural backgrounds mostly in Europe but also some in Latin America and a couple stateside.  I hope that by sharing my experiences I can inspire some of my fellow ARFCOMMERs to find success in dating, love and maybe marriage.  Although I'm no expert on a long lasting marriage, others can advise you better there.  I didn't start this thread with the aim of humble bragging as none of you know me in real life but with the hope that we can all benefit from my recent experiences with women across the globe.

Background:

My ex-wife and I were married for 11 years and separated last July and I initiated the divorce.  She did not want to end the marriage at all until she later found out I was already dating.  After years of little to no sex, being constantly disrespected, sleeping separate and largely ignored I told her that I had reached my breaking point.  She made no promises to change so I knew I had to fully commit to ending things with her.  I was totally miserable and hated my existence.  I was constantly made to feel like everything I did was wrong in someway and my happiness did not matter at all.  FUCK THAT.

I am 41 years old now, I retired at 38 with a substantial income, I've mostly kept my looks, I cut 60 lbs of fat with anabolics last year, I'm 6' tall and bench 315 lbs.  I have been involved one way or another with the following women starting in August of 2023:

-D, 31, Colombian living in Florida.  Big naturals, light skin, amazing BJ skills, a real screamer during sex, we dated for 2 months but she backed out of a trip to Europe with me 1 day before we were supposed to leave.  Hands down the hottest woman I've ever seen.  She was totally batshit crazy but a 10.

-N, 25, German.  C cup, Greek/Croatian mix, born again Christian, she moved into my hotel room on the 3rd date.  She ambushed me with a lunch with her entire family.  She seemed to think we were getting married after just a couple of dates.  Later stalked me online for about 2 months.  A solid 8.

-J, 27, Australian.  We met in Amsterdam and I took her first to a sex show then later back to her hotel.  Not the best looking but any hole is a goal, she's a 5.

-V, 27, Albanian.  We met in Geneva, we never slept together, she drained my bank account and strung me along as much as possible for 2 months.  I wanted a relationship with her but she was very non-committal and a shitty communicator.  We took multiple trips together across the globe.  We dated for about 2 months.
Her heart was made of ice but she's a solid 8.

-M, 25, Russian.  We met up in Prague, curly blonde hair, blue eyes, perfect C cup tits.  She comes back from the bathroom on the first date with white stuff in her nostril.  We did coke together and made out in the bathroom of the restaurant.  That night we had sex in my hotel room.  She was totally wild, wanted a relationship with me but she'd be a terrible role model for my future children.  She's an 8.

-C, 23, French.  Met up with her in Paris, blonde hair and blue eyes, wonderful smile, great personality, a flight attendant who loves horses.  Great wife material, DDs and still a virgin.  She's connected to the highest levels of French politics and she's very conservative.  Former Olympic athlete and French Army officer.  Foolishly I broke up with her for the next girl and now I regret it (see below).  We still talk.  She's a 9.

-A, 24, French.  Red hair, green eyes, freckles, amazing body and outgoing personality.  I have never met anyone who made me throw caution into the wind like A before.  We never slept together because I wanted to wait (idiot).  I had real feelings for her and it made me blind to everyone and everything else.  She broke up with me because I had followed C (the last girl) on Instagram and then thought I was trying to date them both at the same time (I wasn't).  She broke my heart.  Pretty crazy, a bit paranoid, bisexual.  She's a 10.

-M, 24, Spanish.  Dark hair and eyes.  Model, B cup, long legs and slender body.  Met up with her in Madrid a week after getting dumped by A (last girl).  She wore lingerie for me and we had sex on the first date in my hotel room.  Rebound chick.  She stopped texting after I got home.  A solid 8.

-L, 34, American.  As American as apple pie.  Home grown Texan girl, blonde hair and blue eyes, B cup, divorced, great body.  We just fooled around a few times.  She was really fun to hang out with but ultimately too old to fire out the 4 future kids I want so I didn't want to waste any more of her time.  She's a 7.

ETA: T, 32, American.  Single mom to two kids, kinda trashy but with big DDs, big eyes and blonde hair.  Took her to a nice dinner then later got a hotel room.  She took her dress off and everything started to sag.  I wasn't so impressed.  She wanted me to choke her but that's a great way to get accused of rape later on.  Totally a rebound chick.  I give her a 6 but in her pictures she looks like an 8.

-V, 31, Belgian.  Tall, slim, big eyes and amazing hair and the best fashion sense I've ever seen.  Went on a couple dates but we never kissed.  We both wanted a serious relationship but she kept spending too much of her time having fun with her silly friend and not me.  She wanted me but I don't like being ignored.  She's a 9.

-V, 27, Polish.  5' 11", works in Finance, long legs, blonde hair, big blue eyes and perfect skin.  I chased her online for 8 months until she agreed to meet me.  I wanted a relationship but she just wanted to bang.  So we did on our third date.  She was sort of a lousy lay but she looked damn good laying there taking it and did everything I told her to.  She still wants me to come back to see her.  Terrible communicator but an all around 10.

-L, 24, Colombian.  Doctor, c cup, great body and full lips.  I flew to Colombia to visit her and we stayed at a resort out in the desert where we fooled around but never slept together.  We talked about being a couple but I wasn't able to get back to see her for a month so things sort of fizzled out.  A solid 8.

-V, 30, American.  Flew out to Utah to see her.  She lied to me and told me she was 23, petite little body with B cups.  She was desperately looking for a way out of her family situation which I didn't want to get involved with.  We just fooled around a bit.  She's bisexual.  I found out on the last day she was a huge liberal with a head full of woke nonsense.  She's a 7.

-E, 27, Russian.  She grew up in Germany.  Miss Europe contestant, tall, massive fake tits, some plastic surgery on her face (I don't like that), dark personality, absolutely killer body, bisexual and batshit crazy but really cool to hang out with.  Very down to earth for a woman with those kinds of looks.  Didn't sleep with her, just fooled around.  She's a 10 but parts of her are fake.

-A, 24, Colombian.  A petite little doll with a big personality.  We agreed to be a couple after a few days of dating.  Took her on a trip to Paris and London for a week.  Doesn't speak a lick of English and my Spanish is poor so it was hard to have a relationship.  I chose not to fuck her but we just fooled around, great BJs.
Things fizzled out after the trip.  She's an 8.

-E, 26, Russian.  We met up in Vienna.  Miss St. Petersburg runner-up a few years ago.  B cups with perfect nipples, long legs, slender body and never wore a bra.  She's bisexual.  We banged on the first date and didn't leave the hotel room for 3 days except to eat.  She was my first and only squirter so far.  I was on a cycle of Dianabol at the time so we ended up having sex about 12 times per day until she told me she had to "retire it".  She became very possessive after we saw each other and it pissed me off but she did later apologize.  She's a 9.

-J, 26, German.  My current girlfriend.  Tall, slim, very fit, high energy, amazingly confident and fun.  A stuntwoman, huntress, EMT and all around cool chick.  She's a 10.  We just got back from spending a week in Miami and Orlando where I watched her frolic on the beach.  No further details than that at this time
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Things I have learned:

-Woman don't care about your looks unless you're short and weak
-Don't be rude, inappropriate or a liberal faggot.  DON'T BE A PUSSY.  But no need to be a 'tough guy' either
-Making a big effort sets you apart from other men.  Like traveling to another state or country just for them
-Always show up to a date with FLOWERS.  Red roses will make a girl's head spin.  If she asks for gifts before you meet up, tell her to get fucked
-A first date should always be dinner.  Spend at least $150 on food and drinks at a nice restaurant.  So don't take her to fucking Chili's, Outback or just for coffee
-Girls who grew up without a dad are really easy to sleep on the first date
-If she's attractive and over 30 but never married she's fucking insane
-Having money really helps but very few women I've dated wanted any gifts or expensive things.  They just like the idea of security
-Don't waste your time with liberal women unless you're a libtard yourself (why are you on ARFCOM?)
-European women love a man who is ex-military and knows about guns.  They all want to shoot guns with you!
-Being a gentlemen sets you apart from other guys
-Being a good conversationalist sets you apart from other guys
-Dressing nicely sets you apart from other guys

I seriously want a normal, steady relationship that leads to a long and healthy marriage.  I have two kids already but I want to have 3-4 more.  I love the idea of a big family.  I may have missed my best opportunity with "C" as she was the most stable and best fit for me.  I really don't know what I was thinking there.  A lot of these women are great at first then slow roll out the craziness over a period of a few weeks or months.  Are any of them normal?  Am I expecting too much as a 41 year old serial dater of women in their 20's?

But feel free to ask whatever you want or criticize to your little heart's content.  Tell me I'm a woman hating misogynist for compiling this long list of women and rating their looks and personalities or because almost all of them want to fuck me by the 3rd date.  IDGAF bro.  Or stay and learn something and quit being a middle aged loser like I could have been if I didn't decide to end my marriage, hit the gym, buy new clothes and stop being a depressed pussy.

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If my Shrek looking ass can do it, so can you.

Fire away.

Originally Posted By TheOtherDave:


If you have data that supports that, cool. In my life experience with my parents, friends, coworkers etc. it seems even higher than that and most of the time the men are not happily married even if they act like a happy couple. My own parents have been poster children for not marrying once I got away and into adult life . Mom and dad married and divorced young. Both had their failings, but us kids paid the price. Mom remarried, and my stepdad who is 8 years younger ended up raising a child as a wife and in his golden years effectively lives divorced because my mom wants to "live with nature" on their rural property in a little she-shed that he built with her understanding that someday she would get the in-ground hobbit house she wants and he hates. My dad remarried a hot piece of ass 8 years younger like my mom did and he raised that child into a fucking overbearing leftist screech-owl that he can't stand to be around. They are effectively divorced too-she stay upstairs and takes care of the house, he stays downstairs and plays with his hobbies until it's time to eat or sleep.


Where to I sign up for that shit? LoL.

Originally Posted By jhoyda1:
When I see threads like this I picture Pete Brownell at his desk with a tall drink muttering "I paid too much for that fucking website."

Originally Posted By Wizzy:

Córdoba, Argentina

Edit- I misread and thought you said more european. More native? Yeah, probably Colombia or Peru. I hear there's a hostel in Lima that gets packed with native girls looking for a husband.

Originally Posted By BlueJames:


Probably over 2000 if you include women who never responded to me.

Originally Posted By JC_:
I skipped the middle, was interested in the story but when you mentioned "future children" at 41 years old...

Originally Posted By Herewego:
OP has them lining up and not just the skanks, well some are, but he has an angle to impress them.  

He flashes them some coin and sells the idea that he is a sincere romantic that can take care of them and gives them the opportunity to  use sex to weasel into his life so that his money becomes their money.

Originally Posted By Pinetree77:


Are you a trust fund millionaire? How do you have the time/money to travel around the world chasing girls?

Originally Posted By BlueJames:


You know what, I like you.  I like your "In Your Face" attitude.  I want to harness your energy and absorb it.

Originally Posted By Zak406:


If taking pictures of my pecker would allow me to retire at 38 I would be snapping pics as I type

Originally Posted By TheBootDude:
Also, anabolics and only benching 315? I rep that and have never touched a needle.

Originally Posted By 556Cliff:


As someone that may also be on the spectrum, that is encouraging. The part in bold is about 85% of my issue and the other 15% is other miscellaneous hang-ups.

Of course I'm not wanting to go round and round about my social anxiety again, as that's been thoroughly talked over and I'm doing my best to tackle it. My doctor just switched me to a different anxiety medication yesterday since upping the dose of the one I've been trying for the last 3 months was having no effect other than side effects. It very much looks like therapy will be an option for me, so that's some good news (not that I don't have major doubts about it).

Originally Posted By bulump:


the last half of that is copypasta gold


GOLD!

Originally Posted By CarmelBytheSea:

Shashi, I wonder if she's still selling crappy art to tourists

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Originally Posted By CarmelBytheSea:
Charlotte's web
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=29mbSKKiQAk

Originally Posted By ROCK6:

If true, this is someone to persue.

If you want to have 3-4 kids, you'll need a "good" girl in their early to mid 20's. They'll be able to recover their figure and remain active much longer. While genetics plays a big role, youthful energy offers a lot of advantages.

I hope you find what you're looking for and I assume you're fighting out a little more about yourself and what you like. I think you have a pretty solid perspective on assessing women for a serious relationship. Looks and good sex matter, but very values will make them tolerable over time.

BTW, I'm only 5'8", early 50's, in pretty good shape and I still turn heads and get compliments. As much as I would like to travel the world and bang beautiful babes, I'm blessed to still have the best one I found 27 years ago!

ROCK6

Originally Posted By Pinetree77:


Are you a trust fund millionaire? How do you have the time/money to travel around the world chasing girls?

Originally Posted By bikedamon:
Plot twist - OP is a serial killer.

Originally Posted By Sgt_Fury:
I, fortunately even at 50 still get hit on by nice looking women all the time. I have no need to travel looking for citizenship leaches as I'm not a wierdo looser. As far as foreign women go, I married a German girl I met here in GA when we were both 17 and have been married since we were 23. She had dual citizenship so staying here didn't require me at all. If you are so socially awkward you can't meet normal women at home then by all means travel for citizenship prostitutes but don't blame me when you come home with a woman who will leave you as soon as she can and fleece you for all your worth. Better yet you may even get a cool V.D. to brag about to the other wierdo looser "passport bros".

Originally Posted By BlueJames:
Investments, including crypto.  When I don't have my kids I get bored easily.  All my friends work so no one can hang out during the week.  Ya gotta do something with your time other than play video games and jerk off.

Originally Posted By bikedamon:
Plot twist - OP is a serial killer.

Originally Posted By 556Cliff:


You know, I went out to breakfast yesterday and every waitress in the place had tattoos. Otherwise they looked normal/seemed nice, and a few of them might have actually been attractive if not for the fact that they had tattoos.

Originally Posted By SquatchAv8:
Get over yourself and try to make the world a better place.

Originally Posted By JoeSP1:
OP, what watch do you wear?

Originally Posted By jackfrost:


This. Sounds like your ex wife dodged a bullet dealing with a narcissistic jerk to me.

Originally Posted By Sgt_Fury:
I, fortunately even at 50 still get hit on by nice looking women all the time. I have no need to travel looking for citizenship leaches as I'm not a wierdo looser. As far as foreign women go, I married a German girl I met here in GA when we were both 17 and have been married since we were 23. She had dual citizenship so staying here didn't require me at all. If you are so socially awkward you can't meet normal women at home then by all means travel for citizenship prostitutes but don't blame me when you come home with a woman who will leave you as soon as she can and fleece you for all your worth. Better yet you may even get a cool V.D. to brag about to the other wierdo looser "passport bros".

Originally Posted By AS556:


lol so dude is unhappy in his marriage, they divorce, he gets in shape and starts dating women.

What exactly about that behavior is narcissistic?

Most marriages that stay together end up doing it because of the fear of the unknown if they split up.

Originally Posted By Wizzy:

To get to 50% you have to include 2nd and 3rd etc marriages, because some people get married multiple times. So "50% of marriages end in divorce". But it's not "50% of people who get married get divorced". If I recall correctly the real number might be like 30%.